Hi Cherthom, warm welcomes to HW. I'm sorry your doc is being so unsympathtic. As aussie put it so succintly sometimes they need "a good kick in the pants". I have been on about eight different AD's and in the end all they did was give me nasty side effects (this is just me though, I'm a bit odd with meds). I now only take ant-anxiety meds, xanax, valium, ativan as needed (which usually isn't much) and I don't get any side effects except calm. (A lot of counselling has helped that too - vastly)
I think getting a second opinion is always good, never, ever, let a doc or anyone make you feel stupid for having anxiety/panic. They would change their tune pretty quick if it happened to them! Please keep posting, we will support you not to feel so isolated or (god forbid) even the littlest bit stupid! Welcome again. xx