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Posted 7/11/2008 3:11 PM (GMT 0)
 First let me get it across

THIS is a HYPOTHETICAL question thread...........

What would you do if you were told that you had 6 mths to live

What would be your toop 5 to 10 things you would WANT NEED and REACH prior too your HT demise

I AM NOT trying to have a gruesome thread but an open one about what you would do against this DD Anxiety / Panic ...Crohns ....Fibro all chronic illnesses..........

What is most important to you to get Done..See ......Do ....Be??????????

I dont know or have a reason why this came to me except I know I want to go with a clear concious and knowing I have gotten the monster A/P and beat it's Asket to the ground

       YOU???

Luvs

LYN

I do hope ppl will partake as I am really interested in answers..input

Posted 7/11/2008 3:12 PM (GMT 0)
I will post mine after I see if others will partake lol

Luvs
LYN
Posted 7/11/2008 3:30 PM (GMT 0)
Hey, this is not a gruesome thread. Death is part of life and it shouldn't be taboo to talk about.

Ok, what I would do, well first off, I would eat choc chip cookies EVERY day! Then I would get all my "affairs" in order, then I would work the entire time on trying to find answers or heal my body so I wouldn't die or die knowing I just didn't sit back and not look for answers.

Now If I knew for sure I was a "goner", I would hang with my loved ones, no more, no less. There is nothing in life I feel I'm missing out on.
Posted 7/11/2008 3:50 PM (GMT 0)
LOL
I would eat as many caramel sundaes as possible and knowing
I was leaving this world I would make all my apologies to those
I may have hurt along the way in my life unintentionally but still
Iwould make amends

I also would have everything in order for Caitlyn
Her bank accounts
Life Insurance all of it

AS long as my mind was not going quickly I would be making sure I too fought my darndest all I could to try and beat the DD that were attacking my body ......my soul

I would spend all my time or as much as possible with my daughter Cait and with you all here
MY Sis ( lil) I would want here to be with me

 
and other sis's .........you too Peacesoul......you are a sis as well and I would want to spend as much time yakking back and forth to you all

I really love each of you in special ways and I would want you ALL to know that
I want to leave this world knowing at least I tried to make a difference

Loves
Big sis
S.I.S
Sis'

Lyn
Tigger

Posted 7/11/2008 3:53 PM (GMT 0)
yummmmmmm, carmel sundaes! I can't eat ice cream, so me too. A sundae every hour

If you did the things you mentioned here, you would leave this life in peace. It's all about the peace my friend :-)
Posted 7/11/2008 4:28 PM (GMT 0)
YES it sure is and
thats the way I want it my friend.....
Sis

** normally due to Crohns I have probs with dairy but with Burger Kings sundeas not a prob at all lol yeah

I eat at least 4 a day when in the mood ........... devil

Posted 7/13/2008 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
I am hoping others will join in if they so care too

LYN
Posted 7/13/2008 6:03 PM (GMT 0)
Great thread Big Sis and I have thought of this topic before  with the losses I have experienced I realized the things I never did with my Father and my son  and I would choose different if I knew I had 6 months after fighting a courageous  battle.

Most of my things I have put in order and my daughter knows my wishes so I would not spend time worrying about that.  The material things in the end are just that, things and what means a lot to me is not going to mean alot to others so I would not make a lot of lists but let go of the material things of my own.

I would like to spend my last 6 months being with my family and my best friend.  I would want to make memories,  I would want my oldest son and his family here in MN with us as much as they could be.  I would like to see the ocean and a sunset again, feel the sun on my face instead of keeping it out of the sun.

I would like to spend some money on people in need, donate to my favorite causes to help others.

I  would like to sit quietly in a church and just talk to God and tell him I am OK and ask him if they have Hot fudge Sundaes in Heaven as that is where I am planning to go.

I want to see my family all unitied and everyone happy and hug each of them.  I tell them all the time I love them so I know they will remember.  I want my Big Sis to be here as she knows me well and will keep me in the moment.

I would like to be with my husband as much as possible and know he knows I will be OK, no more anxiety, or depression, no more back pain and that I will be with him forever in his heart.


I want to ride on the back of his motorcycle and feel the wind blow through my hair as he reaches down and pats my leg from time to time.

And in the end I do not want to be at home but in a hospice room with someone always there to hold my hand so I won't be afraid.  My Big Sister, I know you will be there holding my hand.....................

I would want to make sure to say one last thanks to everyone who has touched my heart and soul in this world and made my life good and that of course includes my  HW Family.

Oh yes, I would skip the sky diving...................LOL.

Hugs
Lil Sis

Kitt

 

Posted 7/13/2008 9:08 PM (GMT 0)

I think:

1. Check my will and see if I needed to change anything

2. Call all of my friends and family, try to make amends for any wrongs I've done them that I maybe wasn't aware of.

3. Get in the car and drive to see everyone I would want to say goodbye to in person. (My friends and family are spread around the country)

4. Eat whatever I want, the heck with my IBD and weight. They can bury me in a piano box if needed.

5. Thank my D.H. every day for making my life so wonderful for all these years.

Posted 7/14/2008 4:42 AM (GMT 0)
   all of you are so awesome !!!!! i cant go now because my son and hubby needs me . i have to be strong for them , until then i cant go anywhere . even tho my body and mind are sick , i have to be well for them . you all make me strong !!!! hugs to all of you , megie
Posted 7/14/2008 1:23 PM (GMT 0)

Dear megie,

No one is going anywhere sweetie except right here on HW where we gather everyday to support each other and care for each other.  You are stuck with all of us for a very long time.

Hugs to you
Kitt

Posted 7/14/2008 9:51 PM (GMT 0)
Wow, this is interesting!

I think I would sell my house immediately and fly to the Bahama's and stay there for the 6 months.   Since I am a recovering alcoholic since 1984 and had not had one drink since, I would probably drink (I'm not sure about that one).

Before I left for the Bahama's I would give away all my collectibles to good friends including my jewelry.   

The only problem is my 2 cats, what to do with them except for giving them to a shelter that does NOT destroy animals, can you tell I'm an animal lover?

Hmmm, have to think more about this.

Denise

Posted 7/14/2008 10:36 PM (GMT 0)

Interesting questions you raise Lyn.

I try to live each day as if it may be my last but if I knew for sure I was dying, I would want to spend as much of my time as possible with my family.  My affairs are basically always in order and my family members are aware of my wishes. 

I would want to do something special to give to each of my nieces and nephews for them to remember me by (maybe talk to each of them on a DVD or something and let them know how special they are to me and that I will always be looking over them).

After taking care of making sure my nieces and nephews have something to remember me by, I'd go to a beach and take lots of walks in the sand and watch sunsets and maybe Alaska to see the icebergs and Australia (yeh, like I'd have the money or energy for that).

What would I eat:  McDonald's breakfast every morning, White Castle for lunch and potato chips and Golden Oreos for dinner.  Hey, it can't hurt to dream a little.

Posted 7/15/2008 1:21 AM (GMT 0)

Huggles to you Diane, I will meet you at McDonalds in the morning for an Egg McMuffin and a Yogurt and fruit.  Diet coke to wash that down.

scool Kitt
Posted 7/15/2008 3:43 AM (GMT 0)
I love my job, as jobs go, but if I had only six months left I would quit it. I would need the time to finish the current book and write the next one.

When I wasn't writing, I would practice intensely (zazen) with koan work.

And I would either kick my partner's butt to finally get healthy enough so we could have sex again, or have sex with someone else with her permission.

I would make sure that whatever resources I leave go to people who truly need them and will make good use of them (i.e., not my DNA-sharers). If I had any money (which I wouldn't after a catastrophic illness, but this is hypothetical, yes?) I'd leave most of it to a homeless program in my city that is ethical and activist and works really well.

My partner gets the house and car and everything else she needs to live, of course.

Ya know what? Other than needing time to get the creative work done that only I can do, I'm ready to die today or in 50 years. Hmmm. Interesting. Thanks for starting this thread, I hadn't realized that.

 

Posted 7/15/2008 10:39 AM (GMT 0)
Dejavu:
Put an ad in the paper and take interviews for people who would be a good match for your cats.
You know,after 6 years, of intractible chronic pain, I've lost my family and friends due to not be able to show up for "affairs" also when I go, it's like my light has gone out.
I think I'd just stay here in the apartment, try to get better medication for pain. My husband and cat love me, I'd hang with them. It sounds so lonely and old ... but unfortunately. Darn. Darn Darn
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.MEDICAL INFORMATION
HYPERTENSION, SCOLIOSIS, ARTHRITIS, SPONDYLOSIS, LIFE LONG ADD,
SPINAL STENOSIS THROUGHOUT THE SPINE,PINCHED NERVES C5-C7,
NEUROPATHY THROUGHOUT THE SPINE, ANXIETY DISORDER, DEPRESSION, CONSTIPATION,
POSSIBLE KIDNEY STONES (OR CANCER) DEGENERATIVE DISC DISEASE C3-C7

MEDICATION
MONOPRIL, HYDROCHLOROTHIAZIDE, METHADONE 10 MG. 3 BY MOUTH 3 TIMES DAILY. XANAX 1 1/2 MG. 3 TIMES DAILY, NEURONTIN 600 MG, 4 TIMES DAILY, FOLBEE TABS, SENOKOT S , 5 TABS AT NIGHT.

Edit: Your Med Info was on twice, just removed one. :)

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 7/15/2008 4:53:12 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 7/15/2008 10:41 AM (GMT 0)
PARDON PARDON PARDON ...
I'M ALWAYS MESSING UP MY POSTS.
NOW I'M SHOUTING.
I BETTER GO TO BED.
XXX000
PAMELA NECKPAIN
Posted 7/15/2008 10:55 AM (GMT 0)

Thanks Pam

I understand how chronic illness does isolate you from others and You have my empathy.  I am glad you have your hubby. Have a good Tuesday.


Hugs
KItt

Posted 7/15/2008 11:26 AM (GMT 0)

awesome thread lyn,

I would go visit all the place i wana see b4 i die... Little Colorado River, Eiffel tower, Austrailia being the top two.

I would be alot riskier n wud take out loadsa unsecured loans.. I wud put £1000 bet on a horse race just for the thrill. I wud then invest the rest the best I could.

I wud say my gudbyes to loves ones, then spend the rest of my days in the City I love wiv my close m8s.

I prob arrange a going away party for myself aswel...

Posted 7/15/2008 2:23 PM (GMT 0)
I first would pray that my death would be merciful and painless (Lord willing and family wouldn't have to watch me suffer). If I didn't have have to deal with all my numerous health conditions for that six months I would have a GREAT time! I would probably have our family go on a vacation (by plane - that would be amazing for me!) and maybe go to Disneyland or something. Just watching the kids have a good time would mean the world to me!!

I would write in alot of journals that I keep and possibly make some DVD's for the kids. Update photo albums and try to organize memories as much as possible. Make sure my will is signed and in order. But most importantly I would spend every moment of everyday telling my husband and children how blessed I am to have them - SHOULDN'T WE BE DOING THIS ANYWAY - makes you think huh?!?! Makes me think of that song "I Hope you Dance" - even when we feel sick we have to squeeze out every ounce out of everyday that we can.

Thanks for this post - makes you "think" and appreciate what you have!
Blessings,
Leah
Posted 7/15/2008 4:34 PM (GMT 0)
I would spend most of my time with my husband and grandkids and let them know that life is short and to enjoy each and every day.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/19/2008 11:37 AM (GMT 0)
I love reading all the answers you's have posted

It is something to think about isnt it ...........


I hope to read more

LYN
Posted 7/25/2008 12:12 PM (GMT 0)
I hope to see more ppl post on this

luvs
LYN
Posted 7/25/2008 2:18 PM (GMT 0)
I think I too would quit my job and spend my time with my husband traveling and enjoying life more with him. Make sure that my husband would be taking care of and financially secure for life. And try to live each day to the fullest.
Posted 7/25/2008 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
quit school and move in with my parents who live on the coast in California. I would try to find enough money to take my husband and me to Europe and I would just stay on 40 mg of prednisone and say who cares how much weight I gain.
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