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Posted 12/21/2008 11:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hey HW Family.

I have noticed that many of us are feeling down and are very upset right now about loved ones that have passed on or dear ones that are still with us but very sick or hurt. I thought I would start a thread so we can vent out or frustrations and maybe teach each other some good coping and grieving skills.

We are a family and need to help each other smile
Posted 12/21/2008 11:07 PM (GMT 0)
I've been thinking about my mother and brother a lot lately during the holidays. . . They both passed away when I was younger and I stepped up to take care of my other siblings after my father remarried and they left all the time to be drunks. . .
Anyway, I have sat down and cried for them and my grandfather and other family members so much lately. I am getting older and so many of my family is gone now. It scares me to end up alone and we used to be so happy and filled with such a bright love. . .
To cope I've been spending quality time with my siblings/kids, grandmother (whom I care forsmile and just getting out some and cleaning a lot smile It kind of is my OCD getaway. . .
I exercise and journal to help keep me on track also. The crying is therapy for many people for grieving. . . And of course all of you all have made such a difference too. It really helps me to get on the A/P Forum and communicate with all of you all. I like to give good advice and help others. . . And I also like to be helped which all of you have done smile
Thanks for everything and I wish you and your families:
Posted 12/21/2008 11:15 PM (GMT 0)
Sam,
I have told my story many times and to write it again will bring on the tears and sadness. I am working on CBT and trying to control my emotions as well as learn to love myself.
Right now I am breaking in half so I cannot write how I cope.......I am lost and I just want to find myself.
Kitt
Posted 12/21/2008 11:19 PM (GMT 0)
I lost my grandmother many years ago on Christmas day. I do think about that each Christmas. She and my other grandparents are always in my thoughts and prayers. Not a day goes by where I don't think about them. Although it has been many many years, it still feels like only yesterday. I think that is how it always is when we lose people we love (no matter what time of year). Just this timeof year it makes us more aware that there are people "missing" from the family gatherings.
Posted 12/21/2008 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
Kitt,
I understand. You and your family are with me in my thoughts and prayers.
I know how hard the CBT is with loving yourself. Hopefully you will be able to see all the great things about yourself that all of us love you for.
Take care of yourself dear Kitt.
Posted 12/21/2008 11:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Carlos,
Great topic. As I said in my recent post I lost my husband in 2007 and this is my second year without him at Christmas. I am going with friends Christmas eve and really want to be with them but can't seem to get out of this down mood I am in. I do have many things to be thankful for such as my son and grandchildren. I also have friends that look out for me. I would appreciate any suggestions. I tried th jurnal somee time back but it is so thainful. I also love to walk with my guide dog Kodak. He is a great joy to mee. A couple of you talkedabout some kind of tharaphy but I did not get what it was. Thanks for reading this rambling post.
AkiPuppy
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