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Posted 3/7/2009 2:09 AM (GMT 0)
Hey guys, well, I had been feeling better from my anxiety/panic but tonight it's just back!! I planned to go to a party will all of my friends and I'm SO scared!! I feel like I'm about to lose my mind or die!! I will ALSO probably feel horrible at the party. However, I know that if I stay home I will ALSO drive myself crazy and will wake up in the morning feeling VERY defeated!! I'm SO scared I'll have a breakdown and lose my mind for good tonight! =[ Either going to this party or staying home alone! My aunt is travelling today so I can't sleep at her house which means I'm basically stuck going to this party and then coming back home and panicking!! I don't know what to do my friends keep calling me and I don't want to pick up!

What should I do???? Will I lose it tonight???

Posted 3/7/2009 2:24 AM (GMT 0)
Trust me, you will not, ever lose it.  You are just having a temporary setback, but you will be absolutely fine!  It's up to you whether you want to go to the party with your friends, but in my opinion you should go, nothing bad will happen.  You may get some anxiety, even a bit panicky, but those are just crummy feelings, they cannot hurt you.  You said that you've been doing well with your a/p, and you cannot lose the ground you've already gained, you may have a few scary times, but you never really lose all your hard work.  Hang in there, and keep posting if you need more support and please let me know if you decide to go. 
Posted 3/7/2009 3:02 AM (GMT 0)
Can you take a xanax or something to relax you a bit and take the edge off your anxiety. Maybe you can just go for a little while. That is still a victory for you. Good Luck.

Posted 3/7/2009 3:05 AM (GMT 0)

BrazilGirl

Stop for a minute and think " what is the worse thing that could happen?"  You will not die from anxiety, it may not go as smooth as you would like or you may have a splendid time if you kick that anixety to the curb.

We often waste way too much of our time and energy focusing on what we don't like, what we're worried about, or what we think needs to be fixed, changed, or enhanced.

There are great things happening in your life and around you all the time.

Celebrate the good stuff around you, in others, and in yourself.

Have a good time and big breaths, nice and easy.

Hugs

Kitt

Posted 3/7/2009 6:32 AM (GMT 0)
Hey guys, thank you SO much! I just got back from the party! 3:30 am!! I didn't lose it and didn't have a panic attack! I was with a guy I'm starting to date and some friends... they left and the guy dropped me home! I just feel weird getting into a relationship right now when I feel SO kind of out of it! =[ It's kind of sad because I wish I could be enjoying this more you know? Oh well, I have to appreciate what I have! I guess I'm on a point where I fear the fear... I don't even know why I'm scared, it's simply of being scared. I know that I felt 100% more "in it" and less unreal this friday than last friday, so the meds are definetly working. I just need to lose the fear of unknown, fear of fear now and go back to my normal self!

thanks for all the support!!!
Posted 3/7/2009 10:55 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so glad to hear things went well! I'm so proud of you! Blessings, Julie
Posted 3/7/2009 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
Fantastic!!! Sorry that I wasn't there last night to lend some support (my daughter had her first sleepover which failed miserably around 9pm) - but I'm really proud of you. That's TWO times you have totally gone out and not had anxiety/panic recently - great news...next time, you won't be as nervous (I hope!)
Posted 3/7/2009 3:47 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks guys! I actually slept alone too which is a big one for me... However, I still wake-up feeling depressed-ish! Just scared of feeling everything again you know? I'm just SO terrified of NEVER feeling like my normal self again. I know I should focus on the good: going out and not feeling that panicky, actually having fun, going to work and classes everyday last week... Still, when I wake-up, it's hard not being scared of the day, of life. It's SO tough to have anxiety! =[
Posted 3/7/2009 4:08 PM (GMT 0)
Yeah!  I am so glad that you were able to go to the party, good for you!  It gives such an enormous boost of confidence when you do something that you were scared to do...I'm very proud of you for going for it!  Celebrate your success!!!!!
Posted 3/7/2009 4:33 PM (GMT 0)
BrazilGirl, my mornings are the hardest for me also. That is when my "what if" thinking is the strongest. I've taken the advice of so many others here to try and stay in the moment. We can do this!!!-:) Blessings, Julie
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