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Posted 6/11/2009 8:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone,

Well, I don't know why I keep running into these people who cause a lot of stress in my life. I don't know if it is them or it's me anymore...am I overreacting or are they really causing me stress? I don't know anymore. confused   I'm just so tired of human relationships, don't you all get tired of people, too? I always think how wonderful it would be to be anxiety free and be able to get out there and socialize, make new friends etc, but there is always stress that comes with it all. rolleyes  

Time flies...and I haven't been able to do much the past few months, no work, no friends, no events to go to, my life is nothing...nothingness. cry You know when you come to a point when things don't seem to improve or progress, and you start laughing at yourself.  I'm laughing at myself right now. There is really nothing left to do but laugh when you are at your lowest point in life!

Thanks for listening once again. smhair

Melodee

Posted 6/12/2009 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
hey there.

sorry to hear about your situation... I think I can empathize with you..... the last 2 months of my life have been pretty non eventful most of the time! and I get panic attacks when certain things are happening... like tonight for instance, at the video store... I thought I saw an old high school friend and I was so ashamed of how I am these days, that I panicked and ran away to the other end of the store.... turns out it wasn't even who I thought it was!!! how frigging stupid can you get.... for me, I think to get back to feeling able to communicate with people and feel alright it's going to be a slow process.... one thing at a time, slowly work my way back in.... if I jump in the deep end, I might find myself in a much worse situation and be totally freaked out and then be back to how I was a month ago..... hang in there, you're not doomed, you just need to think positive... and take your time getting better! and sure, people can stress us out, I definitely agree with that one! but they can also bring happiness, peace, harmony, so many other positive things!!! think about those :)

get well!
Posted 6/13/2009 7:22 PM (GMT 0)
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Thank you so much for the reply! Your post made a lot of sense! OMG, I did the same thing when I thought I saw an ex. I ran away and tried not to look back. I've done that on many occasions. Actually, on two occasions, they were real! One was a former co-worker and the other was an ex I dated back in college. I didn't think I would see either of them in my neighborhood and I was so nervous. shocked

Thanks for the encouragement, some days, I feel so helpless, I don't know what to do. But I guess you're right, I have to keep trying.

Hugs

Melodee

 

Posted 6/14/2009 1:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hey melodee - I thought I was the only one that felt as you do. I guess as we do. It is just so darn hard to try and socialize when you feel panicky. when this all started I had a lot of losses, couldnt work, etc. never taking more then aspirin then having to take alll these meds thru trial and error (alot of error). I have the panic part under pretty good control but I really worked at it and it was not easy, but this all had taken all I wanted to give to it and no more. there is alot you can do, alot you must do - to start going forward. the other with all the sick relatives and friends I think its them they think its me, yada yada. So I guess I must see someone about my negativity. I need a negativity adjustment or maybe just a tune up. having the same symptoms as you I am afraid it must be us? I will soon find out and save you some therapy. Also when I first started out I just wanted to go away like in the mountains and be alone. now I socializing and its not to bad I feel bad sometimes but mostly not. You will get thru this - the other just isnt an alternative - at least not for me, even tho I dont feel like going I go and surprise myself I do have my trusty tranqulizers on me (sometimes under my tongue) . I dont need them all the time. but they are there if I need them. alot of the dealing with people I have just cut out alot of the really difficult ones that I should have cut loose along time ago, people with problems thatknow I have stress problems can talk to my answer machine. b checking on u.
Posted 6/14/2009 5:07 PM (GMT 0)

Good Morning Melodee,

When your at the bottom sweetie, the only way to go is up so get up and start taking those babysteps. 

Set some attainable, reasonable goals and get out and do it.  Take a short walk.  Do something for someone in need.  Read a book, answer posts on here. 

You will get past this, I have been where you are in my darkest hour but I refuse to let the anxiety keep me from living my life so fight back.

You can do this.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

Posted 6/14/2009 7:02 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Melodee :)

Don't feel lonely in this at all. I also go through the same issues and it is so overwhelming at times. Once upon a time I was a "huge" social person, always out doing something, with floods of people coming to visit me frequently. No matter how I was feeling, I would still get out there, but anymore that is not the case and I will allow the phone to ring and door knock sometimes with no apology. And that is pretty much the case with everything now, and I don't feel like it is wrong for you to step back and take the time for yourself that you need while going through so much. Just tell everyone how you feel and if they can't accept you as you are, a regular person with a little more anxiety than others, then that is their problem and not yours. By empowering yourself like this, you will begin to slowly heal yourself and be out there before you know it. You just need to give yourself the extra time right now and be selfish about your health above everything else, especially trying to please others.

I wish you the best of luck and please keep us updated :)
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