need some advice

eugenia

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Joined : May 2008

Posts : 41

Posted 8/13/2009 5:56 PM (GMT 0)

Hi have posted here in A/P forum before but mostly in GERD forum. I have really horrible digestive issues that started back in 2007. With these digestive issues came major anxiety as I didn't know what the heck was happening and a very close family member got word she had cancer.

Anyway, have been suffereing with horrible digestive issues. Have had many tests all have come back good (which I'm happy about) but still continue to suffer.

I have 2 questions, can anxiety continue to cause such issues to continue (vicious cycle??).

Also, my husband and I throughout all this have grown so far apart. He could not help me through my struggles and continues to look @ me blankly when I bring up my digestive woes. I really don't know how to handle this and his empathy with me is zero. This is frustrating me because I am his partner in life and I guess I look to him for some emotional support.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Eugenia

Nanners

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Joined : Apr 2005

Posts : 14999

Posted 8/13/2009 6:17 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Eugenia,

And welcome to the A/P forum. I am sorry you are suffering so. I suffer with Crohns Disease as well as GERD. When my anxiety ramps up the first thing I get is gastric issues, i.e. nausea and diarrhea. This is a very common reaction for many.

Are you taking anything for your anxiety? I use Xanax (the lowest dose available) at the first hint of my anxiety, and that helps to stop the gastric issues before they get out of hand. Maybe one of these fast acting meds for your bad times might help. Also, I saw a therapist for awhile and she really helped me alot too, so thats another option for you. Hope that helps.

Hugs
Gail*Nanners*

spinnaker

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Joined : Aug 2009

Posts : 36

Posted 8/13/2009 7:45 PM (GMT 0)

Hello 'Eugenia,

about your husband, sometime others may not seem to want to help us when really they are just afraid to. Or they feel helpless and that (sometimes more so for a man) can kind of make them back off from actively trying to help us. I would suggest working this out maybe with a therapist's help. We need our spouses. We need all the support we can get. Don't take his lack of help or possible indifference or anger or whatever to mean that deep inside he isn't very very concerned and worried, and just doesn't know what to do or say. Men (generally speaking) like to problem solve and have the answers and when they get stumped and can't help someone that needs them it can be a double whammy for them.

Peace to both of you!

Spinnaker

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