anxiety with living with parents

 

I feel totally sick and i just want a home to go to.. i feel totally out of my comfort zone, my home has always been an escape and i really need it, not having one is causing me big anxiety.. i cant handle issues when im living out of my home, its only been a day how can i live here.. i hate it, its not my home, its a horrible feeling. i broke my lease and someone else moved in and now im staying here til i find a new place, i find out monday if i get this house i applied for but it wont be ready for a month if im approved.. how can i live here for a month, what if im destroyed by then. every second here feels like an eternity. my parents dont care about my anxiety issues so i never talk to them about it. its like a prison here nothing to do in this house. im having trouble processesing my issues as i would if i had my own place and own comfort. ive been used to having a routine etc this is just too hard :( its weird i dont feel like i can be myself around them, i never used to feel that way but now since then i think ive actually found good friends and people who i feel more comfortable around and i just dont feel that way around my parents anymore. is that strange? i dont mind being around people but not all the time. its ok when i visit now and then but to be stuck here, what to do? i cant imagine staying here one month, do u think ill lose it b4 then? should i take any house just to get out of here? what if i cant get a place, that would be my worse nightmare :(

Hi O.S. I have been there. I moved back in with my parents for a month after my first marriage broke up. I had a hard time with it as well, but looking back it was a blessing.
I'm not sure what I would have done if I hadn't had them to fall back on for a while before finding a place for myself and my daughter.
Try to consider that they are also making adjustments, having you and your child(ren?) living with them again too!
This is a temporary situation, and you will make it through. Try to be patient, and take the time to do the things that help you manage the stress.
I am also sorry that your parents aren't more understanding about your anxiety, but try not to let it interfere with your outlook. We can't control other people's way of thinking, we can only make the best of our situations
You will find the perfect place soon, hang in there!
Scaredy Cat

Hi, I get anxiety going to my parents and i truly love them. I now live in Colorado and they in Michigan. so when i go it is for a couple weeks.

So i definitely understand, the kids and i moved in with them when my husband did a deployment to iraq, it was an 18 month deployment during an election period and we have completely different views!!! lol

Remember to take some deep breaths. Maybe mp3 or ipod with music that you feel you can relax to (enya my personal fav) depending on the day. Don't rush into your own place to run from anxiety it may lead to worse anxiety in the end.

Scaredy cat had a great point too, they are making adjustments just like you. Venting is good. In the overall picture i know i am so grateful to have parents that even though they drive me batty at times, they have my back in the long run.

Its nice to know...you always have a home to go to. we are both blessed in that area many people don't. Try journaling write 5 small things every day that either brought you a bit of joy or thankful for. write down 5 things that triggered anxiety, talk to yourself about them and see if you can agree to recognize what triggers you can try to let go of. I know it seem kinda wack but I have some illnesses and i am a control freak, and i have no control... i have had at least 3 years of therapy to help me accept my triggers for anxiety as they also trigger lupus flares. I am by no means anxiety free, i just am getting better at reacting to it in a more positive way... sometimes.
Parents often don't accept their kids having well anything... its ok to let them know tht you are going to take some down time, ask what their typical schedule is maybe so you can work with it, idk. just trying to give you some helpful ideas or encouragement and today... i am not feeling so inspiring. Old soul 84, I wish you more joy than adversity, contentment from with in, good luck on your home search. diana