On My Own or Therapy?

Hi All,

Hope today, this week,is a good one for everyone or

at least better. For the first time in awhile, had no

psychlgst appt since I dropped her. In the past week

my thinking has just reconfirmed my position that it

was time to move on. The only thing I miss was it was

something to do, and means to vent but that was

played and not effective. I'm not sure if I should seek

another therapist or work on my general anxiety

issues by myself. I remember before settling on the

last pschygst. seeing a few people and  was not

impressed ( I even thought a couple seemed strange),

so I dont know whats out there for me covered by

my insurance. I asked the last one I was seeing for

a referral ( like asking someone who did a bad home

repair for a referral for similiar services) and he

gave general response to try a different town.

As I decide, I am going to use the tools I have learned

 to try to keep a calmer, more focused disposition  and

if I feel anxious ( have moderate gad) not look into it too

much and ride it out. Its important that I try to stay busy,

and since I'm looking for work , this can be a challenge.

I was working part- time in an independent sales

position and have been successful in the past over the

years but this industry has been so inundated that

the response and feeling I would get from trying to do this

could be best described as "toxic". So I need to find

something  else, and to be honest my options are limited.

What I do know is for the sake of my family and myself

I have to stay strong and make everyday count and try

to move ahead. Psychologically  I feel better but old

thought patterns die hard and I fall back to unproductive,

anxious thinking: like I said gad and having to get every

fact right about unimportant information - I think its a form

of ocd. But its better and I catch myself.

So I am  trying  to figure out viable career options, trying different

things and am aware of my own nonproductive reactions.

This post was like my own self session. Anyways, the

comments you guys give me are more helpful than anything

I ever received in counseling. Also, in previous threads I've

read about natural supplements for anxiety, so maybe if

you can give me feedback on that, and what to look for

in a effective therapist(or should I stay by myself?), I would

appreciate it. Thanks

 

Post Edited (ghosst8) : 3/21/2011 4:26:53 PM (GMT-6)

Hi Kitt,

Thanks for your response. No, there is no replacement for

one to one therapy.Your idea of having goals before meeting

with the therapist is good, as my goal is trying to improve to

a desired level.  Its just finding that person who I believe can

help me. Although online  support groups are helpful - as this

is - its not so much that I'm looking to replace conventional

therapy with this as much as the fact that my previous exp.

with therapy has not been that good. Also, at this time I feel

I have a better handle on myself than I ever did. That being

said, I still have work to do and I'm sure there's a better person

out there who can help me help myself. I understand the fact

that the therapist is not there to be a friend but help me reach

my goals ;as they might not always say what I would like  to

hear. Whatever is needed to grow I'm all for.

All the best to you.

 

Hi smilingrose,

Thank you for your response. I'm sorry to hear of your issues with
anxiety and p/a.I can relate to when you state that some days you
want to be alone as sometimes I feel the same. Although sometimes
I feel I need to get myself going/being productive instead of being
so caught up with my stress/anxiety. This can be by planning ahead

so at least I have somethings to focus on during the day instead of my

own anxious feelings which like you sometimes I'm not sure where

they originate from - its just the way I am. Can I ask you why you

discont. your therapy? Thanks

Post Edited (ghosst8) : 3/23/2011 11:30:04 AM (GMT-6)