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Posted 5/21/2011 11:17 PM (GMT 0)
Hi guys! SMZ, I hope ur doing better. And I surely do cont 2 fight w/all of this stuff. But sometimes I wonder...Ive heard some say u shld separate ur illnesses frm urself & fight them off. Others say u shld essentially love ur illnesses as part of urself, try 2 hear what its saying as a mind body spirit connection. Anger @ it feels like it gives me @ least some sense of power, control or action. But while I know 2 be gentle, kind & loving w/myself, I wonder given what stress does 2 me bcuz of how my illnesses work, if anger is serioisly counterproductive?
"The world breaks everyone. Then some people become strong at the broken places". E.H.

"Out of suffering emerge the strongest souls. The most massive characters are seared with scars". K.G.

Posted 5/21/2011 11:19 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Blue. I hope that you are feeling as good as you possibly can right now. I know that things are very difficult, so I won't say I hope you're feeling great...because that might just be annoying, but I do hope that you are having the best day possible under the circumstances:)

You brought up some good and interteresting questions in your post. I guess I would say it would depened on your mood and 'fight level' of the moment.

If you are feeling strong, it might be beneficial to get out some of the negative and angry feelings that can build up with a chronic illness!

If you are having a time of weakness though, you are right that it could just be draining and counter-productive to do anything other than embrace peace, and feel the acceptance that goes along with chronic illness.

You know this would be an interesting new thread topic, I'm going to move these into one...hope that's okay...maybe some others would like to chime in on this, and they'll be able to find it easier that way. (this post is getting long)

Thanks for the though provoking questions, and may peace and comfort be yours friend.
S.C.
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Posted 5/22/2011 12:19 AM (GMT 0)
What do yoi folks think and how does it work for you?
Posted 5/22/2011 3:41 AM (GMT 0)
I BluAngel! I agree that you do have to OWN the anxiety and have ANGER towards it, that is the FIGHT that give us the courage to make it though the day. We have the power deep inside to conquer the illness, and for some they can get through without meds, some can do it with meds and counseling, depending on how each of us uses our coping skills...me I am one that benefits from medication, counseling and a good support system (faith/family/friends). I FIGHT the illness every day for my children, because I know they need their mom to be at her best as much as possible....Accept that you CAN FIGHT this illness and do it by whatever means works for you :)

God Bless!! Stephanie
Posted 5/22/2011 3:43 PM (GMT 0)
I treat my mood issues like they are a piece of dirt on the bottom of my shoe. They do not own me and I refuse to let them rule me. I ignore it, I do whatever I do not feel like doing when I am anxious that I know will make me feel better. Take a long walk and do not come back until I am calm/tired.

Anger just makes me all hyped up and no fun to be around.

Gem
Posted 5/22/2011 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
Guess I do some of both, but when I dont fight I get depressed. I need to separate it frm me. If I perceive illness as weakness ,powerful or governing all my choices I cant stand it. Some say its ur friend but I cant! I have 2 remember ME, who I am Im still me. Taking gentle care of me like Im my own little girl is vital but I AM ME not some brokendown damaged less than version of me. Seems 2 give me energy 2 fight altho I have to b careful as it sets off flares everywhere.
Posted 5/22/2011 6:26 PM (GMT 0)
It can be very hard to separate myself from my disorder, but I try not to get mad at it, because whenever I get really angry I start getting anxious. I focus on a sort of cold determination. I am not my disorder. It will not control me. I wouldn't say I love it as a part of myself... more like as that really annoying uncle you just can't exclude from Thanksgiving.
Posted 5/22/2011 6:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hi guys. First post. I've never really thought about my anxiety as other than a big frustration that keeps derailing me at every turn. But I think it's a good idea to reinforce that we aren't our disorders. Funny about the uncle Susan, I think I have someone in the family like that so I can relate.
Posted 5/22/2011 8:28 PM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone,

Great discussion and I am here for each and everyone of you.

When it comes to anger,  better out than in. Expressing anger in healthy ways can be a challenge; but keeping your emotions  bottled up is likely to lead to an explosion down the road.

Anger is a physical and psychological response to fear, stress, confusion, anxiety, or some other negative situation that puts us on guard. It's part of our natural warning system that something's wrong. It's normal and completely healthy.  Recognizing it is healthy and healing. 

Posted 5/22/2011 10:53 PM (GMT 0)
I think I am the type of person to embrace the disorder and accept it as a part of me. I very seldom get angry. Nothing is worth me getting angry over. I guess. Maybe I am a pushover or something I don't know. I do know that I don't like conflict. I totally avoid it if I can. But I am not one to really stand up for myself but am getting better at it. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't. You know when you get caught up in a situation and maybe the person that you are talking to is trying to take advantage of you? I am getting better at recognising that. I guess there will always be those types of people. It is best to avoid them.

But I find anger takes so much out of me emotionally. So I try to avoid that too. And like I say, I don't find anything worth getting angry over. I may get disappointed in somebody, but that is about it. Life is too short. I guess too I have a lot of outlets with art and all. I walk every day. That is good for the mind and body.

I hope that you all are having a good day.

Hugs, Karen
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