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Posted 6/7/2011 11:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hi all! just looking for a little input/support.

So last time i posted i was about to go on Citalopram, spent an hour with one little pill in my hand deciding and i really wasnt ready to go down the meds route just yet........ truthfully the thought gave me more REAL anxiety than the stuff my head makes up (i like to think of that as my fake anxiety, my brain playing tricks on me) so far ive had a good week, usual "im not breathing or im going to choke" moments but nothing too bad.

So anyways i spoke to my boss who is a very good GP as it goes... he gave me a little pep talk about getting my body  back in control (a lot of my anxiety triggers round my dodgy tummy ive worked out) - ive tried to keep my drinking down also but my main problem is my eating habits, i just CANNOT force myself to eat during work and then i go home and eat everything in sight! ive put on A LOT of weight, even my parents are trying to give me a push to do some more exercise... obv the anxiety prevents me moving my big behind! dont get me wrong im not HUGE but 3/4 stone is more than i would like.

So the main event coming up one of my friends just got engaged and is having a party (apart from the fact it scares me to see people moving on with their lifes and me going no where, no boyfriend, no decent career) im also panicing about people looking at me! ive ordered a nice dress but im so paranoid that people (guys mostly) see me and are thinking what a fat pig i am! i defo wont be eating at the party thats for sure! i feel like i dont want to go and i know it will be such a laugh but i just feel so hidious, low confidence self esteem whatever you want to call it. it plainly SUCKS.

Posted 6/7/2011 12:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hi

It is a personal choice about weather or not to take medication so if you do not feel that is the right choice for you then go with that. Anxiety is a horrible thing to deal with and can affect your life in a big way such as what you have said in your post re social gatherings.

I hate social gatherings as I find talking and relating to people difficult so I also tend to avoid these situations. My way of dealing with these situations usually ends up with me drinking alcohol which is a problem for me and an other reason I try to avoid these situations

What I have learnt is it is good to confront your anxiety head on as the more you do this the easer things become. I am going through a rough period at the moment and really do not want to do anything but I am beginning to make a plan of what goals I want to achieve and get myself sorted. I would say do go to the party and see how it goes if you are finding it difficult there would be no harm in leaving early.

Have you looked into CBT? this teaches you how to deal with your anxiety by giving you coping strategies. It does seem to work well for people who have anxiety and might be something you want to look into there is a lot of stuff on the web and I know a lot of the members here have done it. Keep us posted on how you are doing we are here for you and you will get through this tough time.

Take Care

Hibee
Posted 6/7/2011 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

I understand where you are coming from here! I have been taking meds to help control my anxiety, and for the most part they help me somewhat... but I also get that sick to my stomach feeling when I need to go somewhere where there will be lots of people, especially thinking about how I look. I used to be 100 lbs in high school, but growing up and having a child totally changed that and I am very self conscious about the weight I have put on, to the point I hate going out because everything I wear makes me look so much bigger! It's been four years since I had my daughter, so I can't really use the saying 'carrying that extra baby weight' but I just don't have the get up and go to go out and do something about it! And I think this may cause a lot of my anxiety as well... I recently started taking vitamins to help me out a bit, because I done the same thing as you, not eating until later and then eating just about everything. This has helped me out a lot.... you may like to try it!
Posted 6/7/2011 2:41 PM (GMT 0)
Good Morning,

Poor body image is certainly something you can work on.

We all want to look our best, but a healthy body is not always linked to appearance. In fact, healthy bodies come in all shapes and sizes! Changing your body image means changing the way you think about your body. At the same time, healthy lifestyle choices are also key to improving body image.

  • Healthy eating can promote healthy skin and hair, along with strong bones.
  • Regular exercise has been shown to boost self-esteem, self-image, and energy levels.
  • Plenty of rest is key to stress management.

The number 1 rated best weight loss program is Weight Watchers.  If you have not tried this program please give it a try.  Everyone is there for themselves and not looking at you.  Do it for you - not to please others.

I understand your feelings as I have had issues with body image all of my life and I am a work in progress.

Kindly,

Kitt

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