Posted 12/2/2011 6:28 PM (GMT 0)
A lot of people with depression or anxiety say they feel better in the evenings. I can agree with this statement, I used to always feel so much better at night. I think it was because things were quieter, less stress.
I have some suggestions for you. I won't tell you just to "stop worrying" because as we know, its near impossible. Here are some things that really helped me:
Sit down and just start writing. I gave myself three pages to fill. No more and no less. I did not re-read one single word of it. Whatever I felt went down on the paper. At that point, it was acknowledged and there was no going back to it (through the re-reading). When you have finished your three pages, you burn them. Shred them. Shove them in an envelope and seal it. Whatever it takes, you're done with it for that moment. When I first started, I felt like I needed to do this multiple times a day; now I only do it once or twice a week. Also when I first started, I designated a time each day. I would think "today I'm going to acknowledge and handle my anxiety from 3-5". This way, when the overwhelming feelings/thoughts came about I would remember that they were allowed in that two hour time span and not and at any other time. It sounds crazy and I'm not saying it was easy, but it did help and now, two months later, I don't have to do it every day.
Also, a thing I found myself doing was worrying about tomorrow. I see you doing that and its perfectly normal but remember that there are so many events going on today! I completely understand the need to feel prepared for whatever may come. No matter how prepared we make ourselves, even us superwomen, there's always going to be a kicker. At one point, I absolutely refused to think about the next day. People would ask me to make plans with them for dinner or events and as tough as it was I would have to let them know I wasn't in a frame of mind to make promises I couldn't keep. Maybe I would have a bad day, maybe I would be feeling ok... I didn't know until that day came around. To be honest, my mood was fluctuating a lot, feeling sadness over the breakup and worrying about my ex's depression. Who knew what I would be like on X day at X time. Your lexapro may work today, tomorrow, three weeks from now... who the heck knows!!! You have devised a plan and are sticking with it. Try to eliminate/alleviate some of the causes of the anxiety. Say, "self, you are doing a great job sticking to this plan. If you need meds, take them. If you need a dr visit, make it. That is all you can do. Keep up the good work". I found that posting these "thoughts" next to my mirror really helped.
Finally, pray (if you do). Meditate if not :) Every morning I set a timer for ten minutes and lay on my back with my palms facing up. I just breathe. I don't hold them in and let them out, I just try to get them regular.
I see you are struggling, but you are doing so well. You are acknowledging when you are better/worse off at times and trust me, that's progress. You are noticing/learning more about yourself. Soon, I bet you will be able to identify what causes those better or worse times.
Keep up the great work and keep posting!
Courtney