When will my anxiety go away for good so I can be myself?

Hi Fashionstar and welcome,

I copied this from the response that you made in the other post...'Another horrible weekend...' I wasn't sure if you saw my reply...so here it is again

First of all, I hope that you are safe. I don't know what happened during the fight with your boyfriend (and don't need to, it may be personal) but it has definitely left you shaken up. I sincerely hope that if you were the vicitim of any type of abuse, that you seek immediate help.

With that said...I am sorry to hear of the lasting anxiety that you are experiencing. Emotional issues can surely bring it on, and sometimes it just puts in its stubborn roots, and tries to stay for awhile.

I started having anxiety issues and panic after an emotional struggle within our family. I didn't even realize what stress I was under until my first panic attack...so at least you already know your trigger and can start to do something about it.

We have a Resource Guide that has a lot of self-help ideas here. It is on the main page, 2nd post down and it's called the Anxiety-Panic Recources. You may find some things that are helpful there.

You may also need more help in the form of medication/therapy. This is where your doctor should be consulted. He/she will help you to make an informed decision on what is best for you.

Keep posting with us. We understand and are here to listen and support!

Take care and be safe,

Scaredy Cat

Oh, I understand! When someone breaks your trust like that, it can be very damaging to your state of mind. I have been in a similar situation, and I see how this could definitely cause your anxiety to go into high gear.

The feelings of shock, hurt, abandonment, and the feelings of loss and trust issues that go along with this situation are very heavy. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this. Do you have someone that you can talk to about it?

We are here for you of course, but it does help to have someone near as well. If not, then this may be something that you might want to get some counselling for.

Learning to stand strong for yourself, yet again be able to trust in a future relationship, is a great goal....but one that is not easily attained. There are a lot of great books for women regarding healing from this kind of thing. If you like, I can look some up for you and post back...let me know

I so hope that you will find some comfort in posting here. Many members have been through similar situations, and can empathize. Please post anytime that you need some encouragement and support. Do give those exercises in our Resource guide a try...they will help you to be calm, and at least give you some relief from your anxiety symptoms.

Sending peaceful thoughts and hugs your way,

S.C.

Okay...got to run to work for awhile, but I will for sure get back to you with some

S.C.

FS,
Hey there, I am just getting online here but I wanted to take the time to welcome you to HealingWell and to let you know that I understand what you are going through. I am sure you are reeling from the heart and mind wrenching fallout that comes with learning the person you love and trust has broken your trust. The struggle your going through has happened to me in the past and waking up remembering where you are at and feeling anxious is pretty normal for where you are right now.

It is definitely possible to recover from the hurt and the pain. You have received a lot of kind and loving advice from our wonderful members. The book by Bethany Marshall suggested by SC looks like a good read to me and I hope that you can perhaps purchase this book.

Remember these emotions you are feeling are a necessary part of the recovery process. Coming here for support and talking about your feelings is a good thing to do. Please feel safe here in venting and sharing your feelings.

I look forward to getting to know you better.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

FS,

I wish you strength in standing up for yourself, and knowing that you deserve someone who adores you and is faithful and present in your next relationship...

and I hope that you will be patient and gentle with yourself while you go through this time of healing.

You are an amazing person who will get through this and you will have grown from the experience and emerge on the other side a wiser woman!

Hang in there,
S.C.