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Posted 5/8/2012 9:14 AM (GMT 0)
Hi All.

Seems like ages since ive posted. I thought i was coping well with my anxiety, came off medication about 6 months ago i think, was only on them for 6 months. But i feel frozen, im not moving on with my life, im not anxious all the time anymore but i feel like ive still lost my zest for life.

Am i going to wake up an old lady and realise i let this thing ruin my life...... forget to live my life?

Posted 5/8/2012 10:03 AM (GMT 0)
Hi! Have you spoken to someone about how you're feeling at the moment. Maybe a Dr or therapist? It always helps to talk. Maybe you shouldn't have gone off your meds the moment you felt better. I've also made that mistake before. These are just my thoughts on the matter. Hope you get some good advice here and that you get your zest for life back real soon. Don't be too hard on yourself. Take care!
Posted 5/8/2012 10:54 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the reply Charmy.

Yeah i have a close friend who missed her calling in life and should be a therapist. She gives me all the right advice, says all the right things, taking every day a step at a time. She is very patient but i feel like a burden constantly going though the peaks and troughs and being unable to make any changes.

 I took the medication at my lowest point when i was literally crazy with anxiety but i didnt want them to be a long term thing so ive worked on being able to control my thoughts etc so that when i get down i can bring myself back to a normal level. I know i have come far but i feel like im stuck in a rut, i suppose ive developed some bad habits in my anxiety/depression cycle. I take very little pleasure from much anymore.

Posted 5/8/2012 12:07 PM (GMT 0)
That's so awesome that you have such a wonderful friend supporting and encouraging you. I know you feel like you are a burden but you aren't and I'm sure your friend will agree. That's what friends are for, being there for one another. Maybe you should consider taking meds again just to help make you feel better, even at a lower dosage maybe. Do you have any hobbies? That usually helps me a lot or going for regular brisk walks. Sometimes it does one good just to get out of the house and do something that you really enjoy doing. It takes your mind off your situation for a while and helps give you a new perspective on the situation. Good luck! You are in my thoughts. We are here for you.
Posted 5/8/2012 12:45 PM (GMT 0)
Hi PC
I feel like that some times to. I feel that this thing stole my 20's. My friends were out having fun, starting relationships and families while I was at home barely able to go do the shopping. I had a moment a little while ago feeling that I've missed the boat on the whole partner/family thing. I try not to dwell on it and focus on what I have got going on in my life right now. I completed my qualifications and started on a career I'd never really considered before. I work in a great place that has lots of challenges so I'm never bored.
I don't want to sound trite or patronizing but have you tried making small changes like finding a new hobby or revisiting an old one, going for walks some were new, try a new type of food, changing your hair colour, do some volunteer work ? I find small non permanent changes easier than big ones. even if you hate the food or the hobby turns out to be boring at least you've tried!
So in answer Yes it's possible even if it takes a while
Take care :)
Posted 5/8/2012 3:58 PM (GMT 0)
PrincessConswela

Nice to hear from you but sorry it is under these circumstances.  I am glad to know you have a good friend to support you and the responses you have received here  are very wise.

Remember when anxiety gets to the point where you can't do the tings that you need or want to do, comfortable..........then it is time to get help. 

Turn your negative thinking into positive thinking.  Start by following one simple rule: Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging with yourself. If a negative thought enters your mind, evaluate it rationally and respond with affirmations of what is good about you.

Tell yourself you are not a burden to your friend, you are a person with anxiety reaching out to the friend that has offered to help you. 

Kindly,

Kitt

 

 

Posted 6/2/2012 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
Princess I'm living proof that you can get better with some effort. I have not posted here in years but have been virtually symptom free for over 7 years now. What helped me was CBT and the TEA form exercise from the CBT book by Sam Obitz. I really was skeptical but my new skills are standing the test of time and I am finally thriving in life and happy!
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