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Posted 10/16/2012 7:17 PM (GMT 0)
My name is Sorakin.

I am currently studying for my final year exams

I have always been a loner and I find that these days it is getting much harder to be alone.

It is hard to accept and even harder to say it, but the fact is, I have no friends. None.
I do have a room mate who is very kind but she will be moving out soon. The thought that I will have to spend almost a whole month alone is conditions very like solitary confinement scares me so much that I am not able to concentrate on studying for the most important exam of my life.
I have absolutely no idea about how to deal with this.
My main escape normally from this feeling is to read. I can't do that now as it is it is time consuming - I cannot put down a book or leave its universe very easily.
If someone here can help I would be very grateful.
Thank you for reading.

Post Edited (sorakin) : 10/16/2012 1:23:59 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/16/2012 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Sorakin and welcome!

I am sorry to hear of the prospect of you being alone for a time, and the anxiety that it is causing you. It is understandable, as many people have a fear of being by themselves.

When I have a problem, I try to analyze it...find out why I have this particular issue...and what I can do to find a solution.

Do you know why you do not have friendships? Is it a matter of being shy? Not having time to develop/keep them? Maybe, up to this point, you really didn't have the need, but now that has changed? Asking these questions can help you to get to the next step...which is how to make the necessary changes to find the relationships that you desire.

First you will want to get through your exams...as this is an important priority! However, you can start to set the stage for making friendships once you have completed your year at school.:)

There are a number of ways to meet people...you could join clubs, get involved in a church, volunteer to help somewhere, join a social group that does outings/activities...

Even if you are shy, don't underestimate the power of being a good listener! This is an actrative quality in a friend...and one that many people lack...so that may be your area to shine.:)

Also, you have friends here now as well...an online community should add to, not be your social circle...but we are certainly a group that care about each other...and are glad that you have joined us!:)

Please post anytime...and we are looking forward to getting to know you better.

Talk to you soon.

Scaredy Cat
Posted 10/18/2012 3:44 PM (GMT 0)
i am loner too i used to have a lot of friends at least thats i was thinking and in my time of need they all gone.they say we cant be friends anymore you have too many problems with your anxiety and we want to have fun and not to listen too your problems...so now i am alone with no real friends.the only person that really cares for me and love is my mom sad but true
Posted 10/18/2012 4:09 PM (GMT 0)
Drake,

Though we don't know each other face to face...I consider everyone here a friend. I do care for you, and we are all here to listen to any problems that you share with us, at any time!:)

You are not alone in this struggle...we are a team!

Keep posting.

S.C.
Posted 10/18/2012 4:41 PM (GMT 0)

Scaredy Cat said...
Drake,

Though we don't know each other face to face...I consider everyone here a friend. I do care for you, and we are all here to listen to any problems that you share with us, at any time!:)

You are not alone in this struggle...we are a team!

Keep posting.

S.C.

thank you its nice to see someone cares
Posted 10/18/2012 4:50 PM (GMT 0)
I really do...as well as others here.

Keep reaching out, I know that it is a risk when you have been hurt or let down in the past...but to keep trying and to make connections with others is how you find your true friends.

I encourage you to not only do that here, but in where you are as well...true friendships are worth the time, effort...and weeding through the riff-raff to find!:)

Peace to you today my friend.:)

S.C.
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