Unwanted thoughts.. help me please.

Here's an example i create some thought in my mind like 'i'm going to stumble over my words when i talk to people' so i'm constantly worrying if i will when i talk to them. Another thought i create is, 'what if i don't sleep tonight' then of course i'll feel crap in the morning, then i don't sleep. And that makes me want to force myself to sleep, but i just can't because i tell myself i've already thought of this thought. I've created another thought in my mind now that when i talk to my family i over think what im going to say, for example i will think, what should i say... and how do i answer them. An example would be if my mum asked me how was your day at school? my mind will then start to build up thoughts like ... should i say it was good, should i say yeh wasn't bad or should i stay silent, or should i wait a while then answer her. This aggravates me a lot because i can't talk from my or heart, when im always questioning myself whether this is right to say or not. I can't even initiate a conversation anymore because i question myself again whether this is from my heart or not. And this isn't social anxiety because i'm not afraid of my family, im just afraid of having that thought over again and acting upon it. Any one else get these weird thoughts? is this ocd?? Thank you for your advice xx.

Hi Jasmine and welcome:)

I am sorry that you are having this issue. It is difficult when we struggle with the things that others seem to do so effortlessly. I think that this is a more common problem than a lot of people know however.

I bet that you know others with this same issue...you are probably just unaware of it. I am also willing to bet that no one but you notices this problem within yourself.

I think that this does sound like it could possibly be OCD related...but as a peer and not a mental health specialist/doctor, I can only recommend that you should seek a professional opinion, or look into OCD self-help if it is really disruptive to your life.

I tend to have the opposite problem...I often just babble when I am nervous, or unsure of what to say...and then I end up saying more, or somethig other than what I intended.

A trick that I have learned, and one that may work for your issue as well is this: When asked a question, I respond with 'Let me think about that for a second." I then take my time in formulating what it is that I wish to say. No one thinks anything about it...in fact, it comes across as being in collected and in control.:)

Give that a try and see how that works. Also, post with us anytime...we are here to listen and support!

Scaredy Cat

Yeah, i get random thoughts every day that annoy me.. but what can i do always happens. thanks for replies guys x

Here is a free self-help site and some books that can be purchased for study/work at home...hope this gives you a place to start.;)

S.C.

http://anxieties.com/ocd.php

http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder-Behavioral/dp/B008SLGCVY

http://www.amazon.com/OCD-Workbook-Breaking-Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder/dp/1572249218