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Posted 3/12/2013 3:59 PM (GMT 0)
I posted recently about anxiety ruining my relationship as my boyfriend has a hard time dealing with the anxiety especially since it has resulted in some outbursts of anger towards him at times. We have talked and he is sympathetic to what I am going through but still has a hard time understanding. Any suggestions on how to help a loved one understand  and ways they can help? Somtimes he gets upset with me and tells me to just stop worrying or stop it, which only makes it worse.
Posted 3/12/2013 4:08 PM (GMT 0)
http://www.amazon.com/Talking-Anxiety-Support-Someone-Suffers/dp/0451212096

http://www.anxietynomore.co.uk/advice_to_partners.html

http://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Disorders-Caregivers-Third-Edition/dp/1590790561/ref=pd_sim_b_2

Anxiety and the resultant behavior is hard to understand and deal with unless you have been through it.  These books and article may help your b/f to cope with the situation a little better.

I think of it as a shared responsibility by the sufferer and the supporter. 

The sufferer needs to own his/her disorder, get help and not make excuses for their behavior...

...the supporter needs to be educated about A/P, and try to have as much patience and understanding as possible.

I hope this is helpful.:)

S.C.

Posted 3/12/2013 5:06 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks very much, that was a wonderful help. :)
Posted 3/13/2013 3:16 AM (GMT 0)
AA, I'm sure you have seen some of my posts, I have been on both sides of this venue
and neither side is easy for a Loved one, I am willing to talk to Him if you want,
my e-mail is listed.

Larry ***
Posted 3/14/2013 3:28 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks, that's a very kind offer. Him and I have spoken and I think we are on the right path. He is quite upset and annoyed with me, but is willing to try and be patient and understanding. I feel a lot better now that I know anxiety is my problem, so at least I know there are steps to take to solutions. Before I just felt like I was swimming in circles and making both myself and him more frustrated. I am going on meds and will be seeing a counsellor. Here's hoping this will help.
Posted 3/15/2013 12:21 AM (GMT 0)
May You receive all the Love and Healing God has to offer!
Larry ***
Posted 3/16/2013 4:10 AM (GMT 0)
AA don't forget to give yourself an affirmative pat on the back when you accomplish the smallest thing, I think you are or have been a take charge person who likes to accomplish anything you try, but for a while consider taking baby steps until you feel more self assured. Give yourself the credit you deserve.
Larry ***
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