Update

Aww...I understand your situation completely!!

I am constantly double checking with my husband...usually about the times when he has to pick up our daughter from school or an activity.

This is rare, as I work part-time (and around our daughter's school schedule) so I am the primary parent in charge of things on the homefront...

...so when he does need to do 'my job' I can't help but text/call/Morse code/e-mail/smoke signal/carrier pigeon...lol, you get the point...check in on him to make sure that he is actually doing what he is supposed to do!

I think that it goes along with the anxiety territory. I would call it being responsible and diligent...but in all honesty, I think it goes beyond that...at least for me.

Perhaps letting him know that your comfort zones are a little restricted due to your anxiety, and to nicely ask for a little grace in this area, would be helpful for you both.

I am sorry that this happened, and I can completely relate. I am sure that with a little understanding and forgiveness on both sides, that you guys can patch this up.:)

I hope the rest of your Monday gets better from here,

S.C.

I'm sorry kid, used to be worlds champion jerk, at least I now know what I looked like.
Everything about you just says winner, and you will win swimming up stream and
against the odds.
Get up out of the bathroom floor, everyone here is in line waiting to hug you!

Walk directly toward your fears, then walk thru them.

Larry ***

Hey, I understand about the drugs, Ativan is kinda like xanax but lasts longer, I would take it at bed time, then see how you feel in the morning, I would not take another until I could feel the bad stuff, I never take anything at full strength to start I always use half.

My Wife has used ativan sense it came out and has never had a problem she has gone from 4 a day to half as needed. My oldest Daughter also uses it as needed.

I know nothing about the other drug but many here do. I have had the OCD myself as well as my Daughter, its very hard to break the cycle of processing the same information over and over but you can do it, I know because I did and it was really worse for me because I enjoyed the processing I actually used it for problem solving it would get more refined every time I processed. "but I finally blew a fuse".

I think many of these problems are from early mankind’s survival methods that are no longer needed in today’s world, once needed to survive, now a problem to survive. In short you can do this and everyone here is pulling for You! I probably shouldn’t interferer with how you take meds, so its just my 0.2 cents worth.

Larry ***

Post Edited (lgm1942) : 3/18/2013 9:36:52 PM (GMT-6)

Thanks for all the wonderful support, you guys and ladies are the greatest :)  - I myself have been going to counselling, we will see I guess maybe I can talk to my bf about joining. I know he tries, but you're right Skitt, somtimes their words cut deeply. I am now on day two of cipralex and I am happy to report aside from a bit of an upset stomach, there have been zero side effects. I was also given ativan, which I used last night before bed as I was super worked up, and that was also incredibly helpful (maybe bc it just put me to sleep lol - i'll be careful to rarely use this one). So I am optimistic that the cipralex will make some difference in the next few weeks. Currently I don't feel a thing, but ofcourse day 2 is far too early to judge.

I hope everyone here has a great day !