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Posted 5/19/2013 11:44 AM (GMT 0)
I've have listed here numerous times, I really can't stand living like this and I'm left here alone EVERYDAY by myself with severe and chronic dizziness, and anxiety. Im READY TO DIE!!!!!!!went to the hair dressers yesterday and I shook like a leaf with horrible HUNGER PANGS. I just kept on eating everything and the hunger just wouldn't go away. Called my useless husband said it was all in my head and hung up on me. I'm not not sure i can go on living such a horrible UGLY life! I litterly went to bed hungry and managed to fall asleep after a few hours of torchure! I have aged 15 years in the last 16 months. My upper arms are as big as my 5 inch diameter wrist. My suffering is tremendous! Seen many doctors and none of them help! They just ask me if I have any homoside or suiside thoughts! Why do you ask cause that's what they would do!
Posted 5/19/2013 2:07 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry that you're feeling like this, Hardtime. I know when it's bad for so long that it starts to feel completely hopeless. But please just keep believing that there IS a solution for you, even though right now it might feel like there isn't. Recovery is a process and part of it is finding people who understand and support you. I know you don't feel like your problems are understood or taken seriously right now, but please believe that at least in this community we know what it's like to suffer intensely and we feel for you and DO support you.

Keep going as best you can. Don't give up.

Also, and it doesn't sound like it's to the intensity of your hunger, but I get intensely hungry when my anxiety is high too. I think it might be because anxiety burns a lot of energy, but I eat and eat and never stop being hungry. I estimate that I eat 3000-4000 calories most days (more some days) and I never gain weight.
Posted 5/19/2013 2:18 PM (GMT 0)
Faldov; that's the problem there are no people or doctors that understand and no family or friends to support me. I'm left in this house day in and day out by myself. Husband lives in another house he only visits me once every three weeks if that. He calls and says he's coming over but never does! So how is anybody like me suppose to get better? GOD ONLY KNOWS and HE hasn't told me yet. I can't relax enough to sleep all day I'd rather not be living this life cause its not life it's torture and cruel to have to live like this.
Posted 5/19/2013 2:41 PM (GMT 0)
Maybe, since you have the time, you can start keeping a mood journal, and look for patterns yourself. Note anything that makes your anxiety or dizziness better or worse, even slightly. Maybe you will uncover something that sheds some light on the problem that way, and that might help the doctors. I know it's hard to want to do things like that when you are out of your mind with anxiety, and the dizziness must only make it a thousand times worse. But maybe if you find something, even something really small, it will help you feel a little more hopeful. And maybe you can build up to trying different little experiments, like deliberately doing things to see if they change your anxiety and dizziness.

I know you are really frustrated with doctors and others who support you, but maybe taking things into your hands in this way might make you feel more like something good is being done.
Posted 5/19/2013 2:49 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks, but nobody supports me. I really don't feel any better no matter what I do. The anxiety is always there with the dizziness. I'm sitting here now shaking the same way I was two hours ago.
Posted 5/19/2013 2:56 PM (GMT 0)
So you haven't ever noticed anything helping ever? Maybe the journalling would be worth a try, even if you don't think you would notice anything. I find that it is really hard to think clearly with anxiety. I bet you are the same, and if so, if you have felt even slightly better you might not have noticed it or forgot it quickly afterwards.

http://www.newharbingeronline.com/excerpts/cbtWkbkPD/Chapter_4-2_Pleasurable_Activities.pdf

Here's a list of pleasurable activities. Maybe you could try one or two, even for a short period of time. It might make you feel better just to try something different. And if it does, be sure to write it down. Then the next time you thought "I don't feel better no matter what" you would have proof that you did at least once.
Posted 5/20/2013 1:07 AM (GMT 0)
I am so with you. Going on my 4 month. Everyday is new and we have to try and gain control over it. Easier said than done. I journal and it is good to set it out. My husband is not understanding and I just want him to be! I go to therapy. On Paxil cr. hate to be alone because of my anxiety. You can always come here. The support is great and I will help you get through as will others
Posted 5/20/2013 2:19 AM (GMT 0)
Hardtime, Gizmofab was down and hurting just like you, as you can see She is reaching out, She is Sincere,
She does know exactly where you are coming from. Also, almost every Lady here on this forum has also been where you are now. HT this is our Family that Understands! Cares, and will not give up on You!
No one on earth has the right to decide your net worth to the human family, You decide, Your a Child of God no one else gets to Judge You! We don't know what country you are in but if its the USA or Canada you can find decent help. In short my Dear Child do not give up on US! "We need You"!

Praying for You!

Larry ***
Posted 5/20/2013 10:31 AM (GMT 0)
I want to thank you for replying. Everybody says they've been down this road, but I sincerely think nobody has ever been actually in my shoes with chronic and severe dizziness and anxiety. It's constant and doesn't stop. Most people have attacks of anxiety but have some normalcy in their lives. I don't have anxiety attacks and my dizziness is like I'm drunk when walking everyday, there is nothing normal in my life. Not only can't I walk well but the anxiety makes everything worse and can't enjoy anything in life. I talked to my mother-in-law yesterday when I told her I had no support system, she said I couldn't have a support system cause nobody wants to be around me. Now isn't that a good reason for not living this life?
Posted 5/20/2013 10:48 AM (GMT 0)
Not a good enough reason HT, because we are here for you. I probably have never experiened anxiety the way you do because its so personal and individual but its likely we can all relate.

I love my mood journals, they help me sort out my thoughts and put my fears and scary thoughts on paper and out of my head.

Please know you maybe feel alone but you aren't.
Posted 5/20/2013 11:08 AM (GMT 0)
I understand that you're here for me but, as far as what's going on with me I'm ALONE in this journey of torture. I basically spent all day yesterday laying in bed or on the couch cause I felt so dizzy. My husband came over and cleaned the house, so basically I was alone, he could of come over and talked to me and made me laugh. Instead we wind up screaming at each other cause he thinks I can shut this all off like a light switch. He said we were going our own separate ways and mind you he doesn't even live with me. I never thought in a million years I would have been like this. I've had anxiety before when my mother was alive but never experienced the dizziness. And I overcame that anxiety. But now I have so much against me, my own body and my one and only support system a husband that could give two craps or understand.
Posted 5/20/2013 4:47 PM (GMT 0)
HT,

As hard as it is to do...you have to try and overcome for yourself, by yourself.

No one, not even your husband can do it for you.

You have to want to get well...even in spite of a lack of support system.

My husband also does not understand, and never asks how I am doing or feeling when it comes to my anxiety.

I however, do not depend on him for my wellness...I can't...I would be waiting a long time if that were the case, and anyway...loved ones can't really help us in regards to recovery...that we must do on our own.

Would it be awesome to have understanding supportive spouses? Oh yeah, but the reality is, we don't...and that is why we have each other here.

What steps can you take today for you? You are your number one priority. You need to take care of yourself because you matter...and you need to do it for youself and no one else right now.

You are not alone, you have us...and for now can you try and let that be enough? I know that it a lonely place to be, but getting better will allow you to eventually broaden your circle of support. I can and will happen with your first steps and initiative.

We are here for you, and will support you all the way, but you need to take that step of faith and seek help/start a program.

Always here!

S.C.
Posted 5/20/2013 5:00 PM (GMT 0)
S.C.

I've had anxiety before but never had chronic dizziness, there is a difference. I'm dizzy like drunk when walking its not the same, I don't care what anybody says. Back in 2000 my mom was at home with dementia, I use to get calls everyday from her care givers, I had anxiety and I shook, but didn't have the dizziness when walking. I was working then and my husband was supportive but I wasn't such a basket case with the dizziness.
Posted 5/20/2013 5:21 PM (GMT 0)
H.T.

Will you try this exercise 3x a day for at least 10 minutes at a time?

Sometimes our bodies get deprived of a balance of 02 and C02 because of anxiety and hyperventilation (often times we are not even aware that we are doing this)

When the levels in our blood get off...this poorly oxygenated blood gets circulated thoughout our systems and organs, causing a whole lot of unbelievably debilitating symptoms.

Please try this diligently for a week 3 x day and see if you have any improvement.

The Divided Breath:

Imagine your lungs as having 3 parts. The bottome third, the middle, and top third. On the inhale fill the bottom third first, then the middle and finally the third. Make sure that this is one continuous breath, but divided, with a slight pause in between each third. Hold the breath in for 3-5 seconds if possible. Exhale in reverse. First blow out the top third, then the middle, and finally the bottom third of your lungs until all air is expelled. (remember the pauses) Repeat several rounds for a toatal of about 10 minutes. Practicing this every day will not only give you control and structure to your breathing, it will strengthen and loosen the thoractic muscles, allowing better, more productive breathing, and relieving the chest tightness!

 

S.C.

 

Posted 5/20/2013 5:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hardtime,

The term ‘dizziness’ means different things to different people: some use it to describe feeling lightheaded or off balance, while others use it to describe a feeling that their surroundings are spinning.

 

Because the symptom is quite vague and can be caused by a wide range of factors, it may not always be easy to identify the underlying cause of dizziness.

I kindly suggest you talk with your Dr. re your dizziness to rule out any physical problems that may be causing your sx.

It’s a good idea to keep a diary of your dizziness, recording when and where you experience the problem, and bring this with you to your GP appointment.

I have had anxiety for 31 years and over that time I have experienced some extremely traumatic events.  I think I can safely say that anxiety can be controlled if you are willing to work at it but it takes hardwork as all of us here in the forum admit.

I hope you will take away from here the great advice provided by the members. I wish you the very best and know we support you.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 5/20/2013 5:35 PM (GMT 0)
Is the treadmill 3X a day for 10 minutes ok? I haven't been exercising cause I'm so miserable. I didn't know about the 02 and the C02 and I do hyperventilate, I actually feel it. I'll try it. Back in December, January and February I was walking and my dizziness never went away. There is something wrong with my left inner ear.
Posted 5/20/2013 5:44 PM (GMT 0)
No, I meant do the breathing exercise 3x a day for 10 minutes first and foremost...I posted it, it's called the Divided Breath.

Regular exercise is great as well...but I think that you need to get your breathing under control first.

Inner ear issues can also lead to dizzyness. Have you inquired about occupational therapy to deal with this? Even if your ear problem can't be changed...there are exercises to learn how to compensate, and cope with these issues!

Okay, I think that you are getting somewhere here...a plan is in place right?

Do the breathing exercises and ask your doctor about OT for your ear...these are really good goals for the week!!!:)

You can do this!! I am cheering you on!!

Let me know how you get on with the Divided Breath. It was a lifesaver for me!

S.C.
Posted 5/20/2013 5:45 PM (GMT 0)
Skitt:

I have been to zillion of doctors nobody should tell me to see the doctor about this. It's dizzy when walking (swaying), like I drank a quart of vodka. It's fine if your drinking and you get up the next day and you're fine, but mine never goes away. I'm at my WITTS end and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Posted 5/20/2013 5:51 PM (GMT 0)
S.C.
I have been doing excerises for the inner ear for a couple of months. It doesn't help that much cause I shake really bad from anxiety and this makes me even more dizzy. It's dam if I do and dam if I don't.
Posted 5/20/2013 5:56 PM (GMT 0)
Okay, then can you commit to trying the Divided Breath along with your ear exercises?

Perhaps that is the winning combination!

...you did mention hyperventilation, and I assure you that the information about the imbalance of C02 and 02 are very real. (and something that you may not always hear about from doctors)

If that can be corrected...the symptoms will decrease.

Give it a try okay?:)

S.C.
Posted 5/21/2013 7:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hardtime,

I am sorry you felt I was telling you what to do; that was not my intent.  I was making a "kind suggestion" as that is what we do here in the forum when members are looking for support and advice to help them with their problems.

Anxiety is not something you can delete overnight.  But you need help right now - Your first step is to do anything you can to stop the anxiety in the moment. For this, one of the best things you can do is find yourself an immediate, complete distraction.

SC has adviced you well; I hope you will try some of her ideas.

Kindly,

Kitt

Moderator: Anxiety/Panic Disorders

 

Posted 5/21/2013 7:41 PM (GMT 0)
Stkitt
I shouldn't have barked at you, I feel like my life is passing by me. And I haven't enjoyed one moment in the last 17 months. I forgot may is practically over. I'm also seeing an acupuncturist, I'm pissing him off. I see him every week I keep asking him if this will go away and can you make it go away. He keeps saying yes, but I need to stay positive, even though things around you are not positive. He said stay positive in your mind, what an understatement that is. Like I told S.C. I can feel I'm not breathing right, I can feel my self hyperventilate and many times feel myself hold my breath. I know this wont delete overnight, I just feel I have suffered enough already and just want to move on with what I use to call life. Thanks for listening.
Posted 5/22/2013 9:14 PM (GMT 0)
cry cry cry
I'm being torchured NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't take this anymore!!!!!!!!! I'm anxious all the time just to brush my teeth is so difficult. Just took a valium don't know why they don't work. HELP!
Posted 5/22/2013 11:12 PM (GMT 0)
HT,

I really think that if you turned your thinking around it would start to help.

None of us are being tortured...we have anxiety. Yes it is miserable at times...but we are NOT helpless victims.

I for one refuse to be...and I don't refer to my anxiety as something that is being done to me...

...in fact, I do everything I can daily to do things it IT!

Have you tried the Divided Breath exercise yet?
Posted 5/22/2013 11:35 PM (GMT 0)
SC is right on...........you are not being tortured.  When you are dx with cancer it raises your anxiety but you are  not being tortured - I promise - it would cause you great anxiety but you would have to learn how to live with the news.

Nobody can control your emotions but you.  The members have advised you well; now it is up to you to work with some of these great suggestions they have shared to learn how to take control of your anxiety.

I wish you well,

Kitt

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