Fears regarding mortality

NEED HELP!!!!! Why do i always think about death...or loosing someone clos

Post Edited By Moderator (Scaredy Cat) : 2/8/2013 10:55:50 AM (GMT-7)

I think about things like that off and on. For no real reason or trigger that I can identify. It absolutely contributes to my anxiety.

Do you fear death? I myself do not, but I fear losing those close to me who I feel that I have not built strong enough relationships with...those who I should have built better relationships with. When I lose them I will blame myself, and I realize that and feel anxious immediately. My feeling is less about my own death, and more about the death of others. Tell me what you think about.

I'm sorry I cannot express much help on this subject as I deal with the same fear myself. I fear dying prematurely and leaving my two children and loved ones. Just know you are not alone and it is common with anxiety to fear this. Best of luck.

Have You actually done this? Quite a concept it needs research so we can all be free from all those nasty
religions. Would you mind being the lab rat? Peace

Larry ***

Hello, LGM1942. The answer, in fact, is yes. As stated clearly in the beginning of my note, I've been doing hypnotic regression work for over 30 years. Along with several thousand other researchers, psychotherapists, clinicians, etc. There are tons of clinical-level studies into this research... one of the better research manuals is a two-volume set called "Regression Therapy - A Handbook for Professionals (2 Volume Set) by Winafred Blake Lucas, PhD.", in which researchers from all over the world combine their collective results in past-life studies. Cold, hard, clinical evidence... NOT some airy-fairy wishbook.

There are now literally millions of documented studies that include backup research in which investigators sought out the locales and identities of those remembering any of their previous lives. The evidence is actually quite overwhelming. Of course, folks with heavily fundamentalist/orthodox beliefs that automatically block off any investigation into anything that might widen their scope of education in such matters, will shy away from such knowledge. It's sort of like, if I say I can teach you how to ride a bicycle, and you cross your arms and adamantly say "No you can't!", well... you're right. You can only be where your beliefs will allow you to be.
Recently, I came across (on the internet) sites where certain people continue to believe the earth is flat, or that the universe rotates around a stationary earth, in spite of all those photos from space, from Hubble, from the orbiting astronauts, etc.

Instead of clinging to dogmatic, mind-stricturing beliefs, one can always free oneself and learn things independently, using their own senses, their own sense of wonder and acceptance. The feelings of enlightenment, freedom from control, and personal well-being are incredible to experience.
However, it must be remembered that in the course of experiencing transpersonal history and discovering what your current purpose in life is, many people are surprised, or sometimes awe-struck, to learn that this particular lifetime was to live in great difficulty and learn how to overcome it, a lesson we all experience numerous times, apparently. It's not the suffering that counts... it's in the *learning* how you bring yourself out of it, and move on to better things. THAT knowledge then travels with you into successive lives.
The universe really is an open place to learn, live, discover and enjoy! We are only hindered by what we do NOT know, or by beliefs imposed by others, entrapping us.

At any rate, that is what the last 40 to 60 years of research have concurred upon.
For those with health anxiety, please try practicing sitting quietly, in a sort of quiet meditative state. Visualize how you WANT to be, how you want to see yourself. Even if you can only do it for 60 seconds a day at first, do that. Longer periods will come as you practice.

Four years ago I had back damage done to me that had kept me hobbling and unable to run or even walk comfortably for over three years! It was agony; not so much pain-wise, but that I'd always enjoyed running, climbing, playing with my kids... staying young, in short, and could not now do those things.
Finally, about four months ago, I started regularly pausing for 4 or 5 minutes and just replaying in my mind the vibrancy, the happiness, the physical joy I felt when running, when climbing rocks, when freely racing in the wind through forest trails. (A simple, basic form of self-hypnosis). I did that over and over, and let my body "re-learn" and assimilate the genetic status I had 15 years ago.
Finally, about a month ago, everything began to heal, and accelerated daily. For the last couple weeks I have been able to go jogging with my younger daughter again, even "full-on" running. I can climb trees, jump over things, go rock-hopping on the boulders on the lake shore. It is like being freed from prison!! The overwhelming sense of freedom that has returned makes me want to ensure I will NEVER let myself get injured like that again. When we're out in the yard playing Frisbee now, I can't help but occasionally yell "Look! I'm running! I'm running!"... and my daughter, who has waited patiently for me to get well again, laughs happily and gives me a thumbs-up!
We are no more and no less than what we allow ourselves to believe we are. If "ordinary old me" can do this, there's no reason YOU can't!

Hello, LGM1942.
No need to worry about trying to change any beliefs I have. I don't deal with "belief". I only deal with facts, the kinds of things that everyone can equally perceive and share. Too many orthodoxies bend logic and reason by saying "This is true... IF you believe the same things I do". In psychiatry, this is called "delusion of reference". In reality, an electron here on earth is exactly the same as an electron on the moon or in another galaxy; all observers can agree on such a fact.
When belief systems start to say that something is one thing if you don't believe as I do, but it is another thing completely if you believe in the same god or gods that I do, then there is an obvious fracturing of intelligent logic. Interpretation must NOT be allowed to interfere with objective observation.

For example, a horse is a horse is a horse, objectively speaking. However, to a teenage girl who loves horses, that quarterhorse is "a beautiful creature". Then, if that horse steps on an old man's foot, HE sees the horse as "that #$%^#$%!! stupid beast that hurt me!!". THAT is interpretation. It would now seem there were two separate creatures being discussed. An absolutely objective observer, such as a mechanical camera, however, sees just a horse... no subjective interpretation by the machine. Thus, it is not led astray by dreams, ambitions, fears, anxieties or misplaced beliefs. It sees and records pure factual data. Humans have a hard time doing that, and are constantly led astray.
Hence, anxieties, fears, stresses and other psychological disruptions occur.

No, my friend, I do not run my thinking by BELIEFS that have been handed to me by others. I deal only with facts as can be observed rationally by everyone, and are replicable TO anyone.
In other words, the benefits and blessings of the therapeutic value of meditation or hypnosis are things that I can provide to anyone, any time. It does not require someone to close off their minds to other potentials of the universe, align their thoughts or belief systems with anybody else's, or feel controlled or guilt-driven by dogmatic preachings handed down by ANY theocracy. I can help people over and over, any circumstances, any race or creed, without telling them that they must BELIEVE in some doctrine or rhetoric that others would impose.
Knowledge of how to heal and change in a healthy venue is open to all, freely available, without conditional demands on what they must believe about supernatural credos.

If I were standing on a street corner handing out organically-grown apples for health, I would not expect people to have to "believe as I do", before giving them an apple. There is a term for parents who only hug their child or show affection if the child does exactly and precisely every detail the parent demands... it is called conditional love, and that is not true love. A parent loves their child no matter what stages of living and learning a child is experiencing. The parent may not APPROVE of everything the child does, but a mentally healthy parent still loves that child. Too many people have grown up with parents who showed no affection whatever, but would occasionally deign to show some false affection if the child somehow managed some degree of preternatural or almost robotic obedience. Many of those grown children are now suffering guilt, anxiety and other stressors in their lives. (Any other readers have stories to relate on this experience?)

So, finally, it is only facts I deal with. The fact that this knowledge is replicable and available to all. The fact that is requires no obeisance to human-generated conditions or demands. The fact that it works. Everyone who has experienced transpersonal hypnotherapy is always amazed and enlightened with the new knowledge and healing they acquire... THEY know it to be fact, just as surely as you know the difference between recalling yesterday's events versus recalling last night's dreams. You know the recollection of yesterday's events to be facts, and recognize the dreams as mere illusions.

So, no, I am not trying to "convert" anyone to any "belief". One does not have to be converted to see a fact standing before them, that is as obvious to them as anyone else in the crowd. (Have you ever noticed how most "belief" systems [religions] insist that great swaths of otherwise consensual reality are to be DISbelieved? Certain facts such as proven in quantum physics or general science are held out as "delusions fostered by Satan" or whatever? Even though those same "non-existent" effects are the things that allow your cellphone to work? [Research quantum tunnelling, for instance].)

The facts are there for all to see, who will seek them out. Those who don't take the time to do the research must not complain about what they have not learned. For instance, if one has not studied hydrostatic engineering, one should probably not engage in an argument with a hydrostatic engineer, until one has at least cracked a few books on the subject, right?

The last sentence of your post, though, makes me wonder. God being all-knowing, all-powerful, etc., we can only assume that if you want don't want to be healed without your saviour, it must be logically considered that it was that same saviour that allowed or delivered you INTO sickness. And since God is all-knowing, He already knows whether you will be healed at some point. Or not.
Why not just heal you now, then, and get it over with? Or, if you are never to be healed, why is He just keeping you in pain?
You could rationalize it, and say there are things you will only learn by going through the pain. So, is He saying you're not bright enough to have learned those things any other way? That you need PAIN before you can figure things out? Think about it... if a PARENT was trying to teach a child things about life by inflicting pain, that parent would be arrested. Some parents do... they burn their child's hands on hot stove burners just to "enforce" some learning or discipline. Those parents DO get arrested.

There is a school of thought that says God must be worshipped, hailed and hallelujahed every minute, every day.... a God that is a supreme being that could create an entire universe... trillions of galaxies, quintillions of stars and planets, infinite potential. Our planet is less than a speck of dust in such a grand overview. Yet, such a god demands such constant reassurance of his power from us?

Hmmm... if you had a parent that demanded praise, worship, weeping, wailing and absolute obeisance to the same degree, you would call that parent pathologically insecure at best, and very ill at worst. Imagine your own father with the same demands of your family... "Pray to me daily! Obey me alone, else I will strike you down!" Etc. It would be disturbing, no?

Make no mistake; I am not an atheist. But whatever supreme energy that permeates the universe is not so petty and immature that it needs to identify by any man-made category such as Catholic, Presbyterian, Muslim, etc. etc. Those are our interpretations.
The real thing is far more amazing, far more ethereal and mind-enlightening. By helping people recall their between-life state, they have experienced the feeling of being in the palm of that supreme being, experienced unconditional love and joy, experienced enfoldment in an infinitude of bright, white-lit joy and bliss. It is amazing to watch, to see their enraptured expressions. Their experience, they will tell you, is beautiful, and it is a fact they can acknowledge and describe.

Facts are things we can ALL share. We are all at our own levels of discovery, though. No "belief" necessary... just truth available to all.
I don't have to "honestly believe" what exists whether I am there or not.
Does that help?

Sorry, there, old fellow.
I didn't think that pointing out the obvious was "making the rules".
And no, my intellect is hardly superior. It's just open to what can easily be perceived by all.
Regarding "facts", remember, if you had to go to court, would you prefer they dealt with facts, or hearsay? Generally, I'm sure you'll agree, facts are better... that's why they deal with evidence, not rumour.

And of course, if you re-read my texts, there was no indication I was announcing I was any form of god-like entity... only that folks, as I mentioned, have had some rather cosmically enlightening experiences using meditative or hypnotherapeutic methods. I simply help them do what they already could anyway.
Many faiths use meditation, as you know, to reach greater states of awareness.

Sorry you wish the discussion to be over. It was just starting to become interesting... it was pleasant recalling aspects of the last 3 decades' help I could offer to so many people. You helped me remember many clients' positive changes and life-brightening experiences.
Thank you for your time, anyway.