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Posted 7/23/2013 3:34 PM (GMT 0)
I have read so many post about your struggles and feel ashamed that I have posted about my anxiety. Reason being is that I think I caused all my anxiety where I see people on here are just stuck with it. Looking at my life I truly believe I have alcohol induced anxiety. I started reading about it and it hit me like a ton of bricks. Over the past few months there has been a tremendous amount of stress in my life and I started drinking more. I've always drank and sometimes to much but definitely been drinking a whole lot more in these past months. I'm not an alcoholic, just drank every night. The hubby and I would put the kids to bed and then unwind with some drinks. I have read on forums for alcoholism and what they are going through is definitely not me. I haven't had a drop in 2 weeks and don't want nor feel I need one. Just dealing with anxiety to some degree daily. So now I feel I don't belong anywhere. My thoughts are I'm being selfish to ask for encouragement and advice sense I did this to myself. Feeling selfish now posting this. Do I belong here? Do I have the right to depend on all of you when we have anxiety for different reasons? I just dont know.
Posted 7/23/2013 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
bensbigred

We all belong here and never doubt that you are not a peer as many of us are here do to situations we got into or poor choices or life events that we had no control over.

You posted, "I haven't had a drop in 2 weeks and don't want nor feel I need one".

What a powerful statement that is and congratulations for knowing what part of your problem is. 

Remember in moving forward we often end up taken a few steps back but do not let that derail you.................

I am here for you. Please stay with us and use us to hold you up during this tough time.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

 

Posted 7/23/2013 4:46 PM (GMT 0)
Bbr.,

I am so proud of you for taking the very diffcult step that you have, by stopping the alcohol consumption!

I lost my father to alcoholism...and I often wonder if he had anxiety issues that fueled his need to drink.

If that was the case...I would certainly wish for him a group of supporters who understood and welcomed him when he needed to reach out.

You had better be ready for the crush of hugs and high fives...and the acceptance that this group is famous for!!;p

Please stay with us?

S.C.
Posted 7/23/2013 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Friend,

All of our anxiety is caused by something.

All of us feel somewhat helpless - including you, from the sound of your post.

All of us need and deserve support - including you.

If you've identified your trigger, that's GREAT news! It doesn't, however, make you somehow unworthy. You've at least confronted your trigger. High fives and fist pumps and happy dances in your honor for dropping the alcohol! I'm so, so very proud of you.

I think I've learned what my trigger is and probably know how to fix it, but don't feel strong enough to face it. What did I do? Told my therapist I won't be back for a while.

Now, between the two of us, I'm thinking you're doing much better. You identified your trigger and confronted it. I identified mine and ran screaming the other way!

Please don't feel ashamed - this is a place of acceptance. No matter the source of your anxiety, we all deserve that. The source of your anxiety doesn't make it any less anxiety.

Hugs, hugs, hugs, and more hugs.

I hope you'll stay with us. :)
Posted 7/23/2013 5:13 PM (GMT 0)
I'm also sending you Cyber Hugs, Cyber High Fives and Cyber Congratulations on stopping Alcohol. I think drinking is one of the hardest habits to stop and YOU DID IT ON YOUR OWN! That deserves a huge pat on the back. Keep up the great work. You deserve the new life and starting over.

Lisa
Posted 7/23/2013 7:17 PM (GMT 0)
I always thought alcohol helped my anxiety, and maybe it did in the moment...but it actually made it quite worse after the effects wore off :/
Posted 7/23/2013 7:59 PM (GMT 0)
amateurpsych

I have you on my mind this afternoon so stick with us.  Anxiety is emotionally and physically painful and in our darkest hours we search for anything that will make us feel better. Sad to say some of the things we choose do us more harm than good.

We will help  you through.

Blessings,

Kitt

Posted 7/23/2013 9:48 PM (GMT 0)
BensBR, I can feel the sadness in your words, and I can actually feel your pain. No your not an alcholic but you did treat the symptoms of PAD with it and now you just want to face your demons.
You have done very well. As one who came home from the Military just a little screwed up I want you to know that a great many men treat PAD with alchol, I did for many years then I decided to give it up and it wasnt too easy. Acording to the VA almost all suffering from alcholism have a real undercurrent of PAD that needs treating as well. One last thing, it's not so much if you belong here, as we need you here, stay, help, get well, stay some more. We all need each other! peace

Larry ***
Posted 7/23/2013 11:14 PM (GMT 0)
bensbigred,

I'm hoping you'll check back here, if nothing more than to see if anyone responded to you, and see that we all want and need you to stay! Please check in and let us know you're okay, when you can.

Hugs!
Posted 7/24/2013 12:40 AM (GMT 0)
All of you are wonderful! Thank you for all your words. It seems like life has been flipped around in this last month. Everything has to change for me and I know it's for the better. I haven't told hardly anyone what Im going through. Fear I guess. I have been asking God to show me what He wants me to see and where to go and He has been faithful. Its been hard to look but it has leaad me to realizations about so many things and 90% of them scare me. He led me here and that has been a good thing. I wish I could give all of you a huge thank you hug! Blessings on your life :) I will definitely be staying here with you warm embracing people.
Posted 7/24/2013 1:02 AM (GMT 0)
It's kinda funny that you said He led you here, I found this forum by accident and wouldn't leave, I have the same sence of being led here, Thank You my Sister! Peace

Larry ***
Posted 7/24/2013 2:51 AM (GMT 0)
Yay! I've been worried about you. ;)
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