I need help :'(

Ok, Take a deep breath, and try to understand, maybe you are and maybe you aren't, see those over the
counter tests are not 100%. Give yourself a week or two and try again. Please do not make a sudden
decision if you do its probably going to be regrettable. I Love You Kortnie and I will not judge you or give
you a guilt trip, just please don't jump to a decision. First have you discussed this with your boyfriend?
Thats the first place to start. We can't decide for you but may can help. I think you need to talk to God!
Then start a log of your feelings. I will discuss this with you anytime you want. No deciding now! Peace

Larry ***

Hey kortnie,

Just remember, whatever your decision is, make sure it's want you want to. Take sometime to take about it and decide what YOU want.

Please know that we are here for you.

UA

U need to talk hun u can.text when ever

Look at it this way hun there is a blessing in every lesson&like I stress God wouldn't give us anything we can't handle,test are 99.% fact but that other 1%can be wrong. I know there have been ppl who take&it said no&they where as for some it says yes&they are not,if you are after checking again could be God way of saving your life. Kids are a blessing&mother hood kicks in&for a giod mother like I know you will be if you are prego,that focus of all about baby will put way any anxiety. Whats meant to be will be&whats not want its just like that,because thats how The Most High works,and it is all in His hands blessings to you.

Hi honey. No matter what you think you can handle his. This is the most important decision in our life so far that you have had to make and I know you will make it with strength and courage. You need to see a doctor to determine if you are indeed pregnant. This stress isn't good for you. Please find out what you are dealing with. And family can be more supportive than you think. You can do this! You were dealt these cards because God knew you could handle it. Maybe this isn't part of your plan but its part of God's. Stay strong and you will do what's best for you and your baby.

I have thought about it and I think what's best for me is an abortion with my financial situation my anxiety and living with other but my parents won't let me I can not do this ice thought about it all day and I just cry I don't want this right now :'( I'm possibly gonna go get a medical one so it looks like a miscarriage

Sweetie,

This doesn't come from a place of judgment at all, please know that. I'm going to try and very carefully avoid my own opinion, because this is your life and your pregnancy.

Please, please... slow down for a minute.

I agree with S.C., you need counsel about every option before you make a choice.

I have had friends who had abortions who were are still affected decades later. I've had other friends who were confident in their decision and are fine.

Please, get yourself to a doctor - health department, pregnancy testing center, whatever you're able to access. Despite those pregnancy tests, you need medical confirmation that you're pregnant. You also need to know how far along you are, if you're pregnant. That affects your options greatly.

A medical abortion can be both dangerous and traumatic if you're very far in pregnancy. Just because you've only missed one period doesn't necessarily mean that you're only a few weeks into the pregnancy - if you're even pregnant.

You mentioned the medical abortion so that it "looks like a miscarriage." Is your fear related to your family: a) that they will know you're sexually active and have become pregnant or b) that they will be angry about bringing another person into the home.

If it is A., if you appear to have a miscarriage, they're still going to know. Do you have plans to stay somewhere else during the process?

If it is B., you might consider adoption. I have several aunts who gave babies up for adoption because they came pregnant when they were just not capable of raising the children. For some of them, it was a very positive experience. We've just recently been reunited with one of those "children." He's grown now, and found his sisters online. Having been raised in a very small family, he's very excited to be reunited with our very large family and we're all happy to reunite with him.

Whatever you decide, please try to take time to get as much factual information and counseling as you can. Try to get that information from sources that aren't politically biased. Your primary care provider or health department are probably good places to start.

While you're weighing your options, please know that I'm sending love and prayers, and that I wish you weren't in so much pain. If I could come fix everything for you, I would.

Sending you lots and lots and lots of gentle hugs!!!

I went to the er last night I'm only two weeks maybe three my family already knows they don't want me to get an abortion but I can't physically emotionally our financially have a child I had a therapy session today with my CBT counselor and she agrees with me its not something I can do right now and I'm making the better decision and I'm sure its what I want :-(

Thanks Larry

Thanks BeRock

I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. I truly believe that you need to slow down and think for a moment about the impact of whatever your decision may be. I had a friend many years ago who went through the same thing. Abortion was not an option, so she decided to find adoptive parents, that nurtured her and loved her through her pregnancy, and afterwards they were rewarded a baby. She was involved in every single aspect of her maternal childs life, including her name. Her daughter is now 18 years old and although her adoptive parents are her "parents" she has a great relationship with her maternal mother and never any resentment towards her. I'm not telling you what to do, because I can't imagine what you must be feeling, but I hope that you will slow down and carefully explore your options!! Bless you sweetie!!

Ok I've explored the options if I wanted to go through the nine months of hell I wouldn't even Be considering an abortion!! I would seriously love to keep this child but I'm NOT READY I'm not physically financially NOR emotionally ready.. I until I became pregnant BEFORE I was ready I was against it also! And I'm still having my doubts but I just can't have a child or carry it for nine months AND if I would I couldn't ADOPT either... And seriously with nobody helping me which is why I write on here... I seriously just wish this anxiety would just kill me!!!


And for the people on here that do understand I'm sorry I just can't do this I've ALWAYS had a fear that if I became pregnant I would have a crap ton of problems so for right now I probably won't even come back on this site for AWHILE! Everyone is making me have second doubt on the abortion! But if I don't go through with the abortion no will do the above that I stated or after the child is born I will leave the father and send the child with him and not see it because I feel that people are forcing me to have something I don't want! So you probably won't hear from me for awhile