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Posted 10/4/2013 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
So I've been undergoing the most stress I've ever encountered in my life, mother is in icu critically ill.
But regarding my symptoms
Here it goes:
Shortness of breath( feels cold when I inhale sometimes)
Chest flutters .. Choking sensation.
And a fear of getting an asthma attack and dying /:
My mother went into cardiac arrest and is in a coma and now I think that might happen if I don't get enough .oxygen /:
I've never been diagnosed with asthma but I remember using an inhaler during a "attack" and it only made it worse.
I also have Turbinate Hypertrophy so one of my pores is always blocked and makes it even harder to breathe.
Have any of you guys felt some of these symptoms ?
Posted 10/4/2013 7:53 PM (GMT 0)
Rick,

I am so sorry to hear of your Mother's critical condition and I hope you recognize that you have a right to feel anxious as this is your Mother and this may be a life changing event for you. You are not going to die as people do not die from feeling anxious.  It feels to me like your symptoms are related to your fears about your Mother and the stress you are undergoing right now.

I do know it is hard to see your Mother, who was once active, strong and healthy go through a period of weakness and deteriorate right before your eyes. However, remembering the good times and trying to focus on speaking of happy events will make the moment a little easier  and perhaps reduce the stress and sadness. Share your feelings with your family and know it is OK to cry.

Don't stop talking to your Mother even though she is in a coma as many believe that patients in comas can hear you. Also talk to her and share your stories with her, even if it is about the news or weather.  The sound of your voice may bring her comfort.

The problems you are feeling are normal for the place your in right now. If your feelings were not all over the place you would not be normal like the rest of us.

Sending healing prayers for your Mother and for you.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 10/4/2013 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
Yeah it's very tough
I feel like my life will end if something happens to her .
Now the symptoms are just scaring me
I guess I need some reassurance
Posted 10/4/2013 8:00 PM (GMT 0)
Rick, when you are in the room try to remember many who are in a coma can hear and remember, just
Love Her with all your Heart, She will know! Peace

Larry ***
Posted 10/4/2013 8:19 PM (GMT 0)
Rick, I'm so sorry to hear that your mother is so ill. I can only imagine how scary this situation must be for you. I'll be sending good vibes your way today.

As for your symptoms, I experience those almost every time I have an attack. I know it's hard to convince yourself that they are truly symptoms of your anxiety disorder, but I'm sure that everyone here would agree that they are. This is a truly devastating situation that you're dealing with and your panic disorder is absolutely going to respond to it. I would be the same way if my mom were to get sick like that. She's my best friend.

It may help you to realize that when you're in the hospital with her you are surrounded by medical personnel. If something were to happen, you would surely be in the best place for something like that to occur. I know that may not make the scary symptoms go away, but I believe it would make me feel a little safer if I were in your shoes.
Posted 10/4/2013 8:23 PM (GMT 0)
This place would be the best..
But still the stress is just so intense I can't take it
All doctors talk about is death ..
And I just can't accept something like that happens bing to my mother .
What are your symptoms ?
Posted 10/4/2013 8:45 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry to hear about your mom Rick. This is indeed an anxiety trigger.

Can you talk to your own doctor about getting some help in the form of an Rx...perhaps a benzodiazepine for this situational/breakthrough anxiety...just for the time being?

Can you talk with (find one if you don't have one) your therapist...or schedule some extra sessions during this challenging time?

Make sure that you are taking some time to do your coping skills to decompress from the stressors that you are undoubtably going through. (see our Resources if you need ideas)

Know that we are here to support you through this. We understand and care, so post anytime that you need to.

S.C.
Posted 10/4/2013 8:48 PM (GMT 0)
I think in going to need some Xanax just to relax a bit.
Thank you all.
I just there was a fast forwarding button
I've literally been here next to my mom for a month now/ 12+ hours a day
Posted 10/4/2013 8:52 PM (GMT 0)
You have endured a long time. Have you asked if there is a hospital clergy of grief counselor there on site that you could talk to. This way you would not have to leave and feel like you are missing precious time and support with your mom.

You of course want to be by her side, and are a great son for being there, but you need to take care of yourself as well.  Talking with someone could be just what you need at the moment.

Thoughts and prayers for both of you,

S.C.
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