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Posted 12/16/2013 4:35 PM (GMT 0)
Having a rough time .I'm going thru a blood disorder my mom's 2year not being .feel hopeless .not wanted or needed .I see a therapist but I just don't know what to do anymore.I hate the holidays.I'm having horrible nightmares n my anxiety is threw the roof
Posted 12/16/2013 5:08 PM (GMT 0)
Greetings Eddie, I know that this is a difficult time of year for many of us. We have those we have lost, and many pressures from all angles.
I like to go out and buy a buggy full of toys at the discount store and take it to the nearest food pantry- helping others helps the most, and can make you feel a lot less alone. It's the best therapy I know of. Take some cookies to a neighbor or a nursing home. Those folks feel alone all of the time.
Many blessings - you will be fine and the holidays will soon be over. Hang in there!
Posted 12/16/2013 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
Eddie,

Hello and I too am sorry to read of the tough time you are going through.

I find helping others always makes me feel better.  If you do not have anyone in your life to share the holiday with do consider volunteering as there are so many opportunities this time of year and through out the year.

Also volunteering places you in the right spot for making new friends.  Soup kitchens, churches, family services, senior citizen centers are always looking for volunteers.

You do not have to have any special education to become a volunteer for most of the places that need help.

Keep talking with us and lets us know how you are doing.

Kindly,

Kitt

 

Posted 12/16/2013 8:49 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry you are having a stressful time. Holidays are hard for all of us for different reasons. Just find one good thing a day that made you smile and know tomorrow there will be more.
Posted 12/16/2013 11:19 PM (GMT 0)
Hi eddie,

Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

Know that you always have friends here who support you.

I wish you well in all things...physically, mentally and spiritually.

The above suggestions are great. I also recommend our Resources (main page, 1st post) for great coping skills and ideas for navigating through this season.

Talk to you soon,

S.C.
Posted 12/17/2013 2:51 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you to those who have replied.I don't know what to do I don't want to go to hostipal but im having panic attacks constely n I'm scared I feel even know my heart is fine there is something wrong.I'll rung out of my xanax. Which seems all that works.so scared n alone
Posted 12/17/2013 4:22 AM (GMT 0)
You are not alone...not as long as you are posting here.:)

We all support each other, so keep talking with us...we are always here to understand and care!

Here are some of those links that you can click on directly. These self-help techniques really work if you give them a chance and practice them daily

Keep posting!

Self Help sites with breathing/relaxation exercises instructions

Panic attack relief exercises:

http://www.healthyplace.com/

http://www.stress-relief-exercises.com/

http://www.ehow.com/video_4405003_breathing-exercises-panic-attacks.html

http://www.psybersquare.com/anxiety/panic_relax_I

S.C.

Posted 12/17/2013 4:24 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the websites.I really hate the nightmares
Posted 12/17/2013 10:04 PM (GMT 0)
eddie,

Nightmares are terrifying dreams; dreams in which our worst fears are brought to life in fully convincing detail. Whatever horrors you personally believe to be the worst things that could happen—these are the most likely subjects of your nightmares.

Waking yourself up so that you are in a lucid state is the best thing to chase the nightmares away.

I dislike nightmares and sad dreams where you wake up with tears on your face.

Your in good company so stick with us as we will help you through the tough times.

Posted 12/18/2013 3:21 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you I hate the people that don't understand what I'm going through its a living hell I want to drink or do drugs to take away the pain I'm fighting hard really hard but I don't know what to do
Posted 12/18/2013 3:45 PM (GMT 0)
Do u have to let go.n do I have to forgive the people responsible
Posted 12/18/2013 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
Eddie, I'm 71 and been thru a lot of hell on earth but I can tell you that for your own good, your recovery,
your mental health, not to mention your Spiritual health, "Yes Forgiving will give you the upper hand",
in the battle you are fighting internal strength is the first thing we need. "Letting go does not mean forgetting
it also does not mean you stop Loving", it just means you are going forward with your life, this is a way of
thanking those who you Love and lost but never will forget". about your xanax, this is all I ever used I learned
how to adjust it until I found the dosage that would do the job but not knock me out, I was able to work and
play later I learned to deal with the anxiety and only used the xanax for a panic attack, It's been over two
years now and I have been able to handle the situation, but it took me getting off my but and getting into
group therapy "CBT" minimum drug need and getting out and moving my muscles, It does work, Larry ***
Posted 12/18/2013 6:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Eddie,

I know what you mean about forgiveness...it is truly a difficult thing to do.

Often we think that by avoiding forgiveness, we are protecting ourselves from more hurt, but this is far from the truth.

We do untold damage to ourselves...mentally and physically by holding onto old hurts.

Like Larry said, forgiveness does not excuse other's bad behavior...it still happened after all...but what it does do is free the person who was hurt.

Forgiveness is often as much (or more) for ourselves, as it is others.

As far as your stating that you want to escape with substances...I think that you know better than to do that.

It is tempting when you feel afraid and down, but as you know, it only leads to more problems.

It is a temporary relief at best...and at its worst, can turn into a deadly vice/addiction.

So strive to manage your anxiety in healthy ways! Use those coping techniques that are in the links that I posted.

Keep talking with us here...

...and finally, keep in contact with your doctor/therapist for ways in which to fully use your treatment options for getting well.

Hugs going out to you today.:)

S.C.
Posted 12/20/2013 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the reminder I won't let myself go back to drinking its not the answer.it's just there's day's i question my strength n will n Faith.now I'm going thru a mri for my back .n no pain pills any help
Posted 12/20/2013 5:29 PM (GMT 0)
We all have those days! It does take so much effort to stay strong in the face of anxiety.

That is where your support system can jump into to help! We are here to listen and encourage you anytime.:)

Staying connected with friends and family...as well as other groups you may be involved in(church, AA, community/clubs, ect...) is a good way to keep headed in the right direction.

I wish you the best with your upcoming test. I am sorry you are having back pain, and I hope that you get answers and a treatment plan going really soon!

Keep talking with us and let us know how you are doing soon, okay?

S.C.
Posted 12/21/2013 4:03 AM (GMT 0)
Thank u.it does help posting here u guys are great help
Posted 12/21/2013 7:53 AM (GMT 0)
I to am dealing with my anxiety going through the roof if you need somebody to talk to I am here as well taking it day by day
Posted 12/21/2013 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
Eddie,

For my $0.02, I wanted to ^^echo^^ what our other wise angels have already stated.

One of the most precious aspects to HW, that I have found, is that it is a safe place to vent, to ask questions, to bounce thoughts off...

There's such a great crew here, and very often, in knowing we're not alone, and in knowing we are not being judged, but accepted, (and understood!), can be a huge step towards healing. I've learned so much here, and as you post more, you'll see that we're here for you,....and that it's okay.

I know we're essentially names on a screen, but the more you exchange your thoughts and concerns, you'll come to realize that there's quite a safety net to write the things we may be too self-conscious at first to share.

You'll learn different ways to cope and handle these scary and intrusive thoughts. One day at a time, one moment at a time,.....we get it.

Welcome aboard.



M.
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