Dealing with the new sick me

I know you all have gone through this before I am talking about how did you deal with the new "SICK" you? I have always been a Happy person, the one who took care of everyone else. Even though firbromyalgia and neuropothy aren't new to me the fact that I am getting worse, actually so bad that it is interfering with my relationships and the way my life style is now. I cannot make plans to cook a Big dinner for my family. And Christmas and the holidays are not the same. I am the mother who all the kids hung out at her house, I had spare of the moment parties and invited friends over last minuet, I could throw together a dinner party in a few hours, took the kids to disneyland, went on hour fast walks for exercise, the one people could always count on, clean house, took care of my aging mom, drove her to all her apt. helped out in the church, tierd out my grandchildren they couldn't keep up with me, went back to College at the age of 55 and got my BA in Psychology. I have always been there for my husband in business because we have our own business. Now I don't even recognize who this new person I am. I now cannot make plans, fix family dinners and even Santa can't recognize our house anymore at Christmas. The worst is not being able to jump in the car and have the freedom to go or do whatever I want, when I want. My kids have all moved out and now is the time for my husband and I. My hope and dream is to get my masters, but most days I don't even feel like getting out of bed. I look great like nothing is wrong with me, everyone ask how I look so young, but on the inside I feel a hundred years old. Don't get me wrong I am glad to be alive, and I know things could be worse, thanks for listening, I am struggeling to accept this new me, the sick, tierd me. Any ideas?

hi rivalee,

thank you for your post. i am having a hard day today. they say one of the good ways to help yourself is to help others. i am sorry you are having so much trouble coping with life. i have a similar thing, i used to be able to participate fully in life, go where i wanted, had friends and social occasions.

being sick with anxiety is no fun. it is hard to accept that i have it. i know it is hard for you too. my only suggestion would be take it one day at a time. try to do things for yourself today. even if that means a nap, from wanting to sleep all the time.

are you getting professional help? a therapist can really help you sort out your feelings and perhaps embark on a plan of action.

above all, keep posting here. i know from experience that it is helpful. the people here will not judge you, or push you into doing things you aren't able to do.

i wish you peace!

Thank you everyone I will take note in your answers. It's nice to know someone is listening:} I hope you have a blessed day full of peace and love. It is so amazing how love heals. It gives you a sense of belonging and knowing that you are important to help the world go round. Even if you feel alone because you really aren't in a relationship with someone. Just saying Hi with a smile on your face to someone passing you by on the street or when you are in the grocery store etc. you will find that most people will converse with you in conversation and most people are friendly. And maybe you just gave someone a warm fuzy feeling. I have to remember it's not just about me there are a whole lot of other people in this life too that could use uplifting ♥