Advice?

I feel like a broken record... every day is the same thing, I am consumed by every ache, pain, bump, lump, twitch and surge i feel. My husband does not understand so i try to hide how i am feeling from him and when i talk to my mom she just tells me how worrisom my mental state is and how i have got to try to pull myself out... well if it was that easy i would not be where I am right now, now would i? I know she does not fully understand how i am feeling, my husband too for that matter so i cannot blame them but it is just getting ridiculous.
I am 22, stay at home mom of two little boys (4 year old and 21 months old) my husband works from 3pm to 11pm he is a bartender and manager of a steak house and when he is home he sleeps in because he is so tired... so basically i see him for 3-4 hours most days. My oldest son does not listen to me at all and my littlest is in to everything so from 6am to 8pm i am not only dealing with health anxiety but continually on edge because my boys are non stop bless them.

I have been trying to stay off of google because i am convinced i have every cancer i read about, as of right now i am crippled at the thought of lymphoma.

The family doctor i recently started seeing makes me feel rushed when i speak with him so i never feel satisfied when i leave because i remember i left out a lot of what i wanted to say...

I just want to feel and be normal again. I want to make sure nothing fatal is causing my gut issues and get some effing mental help. I feel alone and crazy and like i am wasting my life by feeling like this.

Good morning, I'm sorry your feeling this way, I know how hard it is. The very best thing to do is NOT google your symptoms because you will ALWAYS come across the negative. Even if you google simple cold symtoms. I used to do this and it would drive me nuts, so now I just make an appointment with the doctor and get it checked out, most of the time it's nothing and I wasted days worrying over crap that didn't exist.

Hi Apple.:)

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time.:( This should be a wonderful part of your life...you are young, with two beautiful little ones...

...however, I remember my early 20's as being a challenge as well. Recently starting to be fully independent, and having many new responsibilities can be tough terrritory to navigate.

There are some great coping skills to help you find peace and calm...even if you find your daily situation stressful. We can't always immediately change our circumstances (schedules, frustrations, ect...) but we can change our reactions to them!

Here are a few I pulled up for you to try. You will find more helpful material in our full Resource Guide found on our main page, 1st post.

Self Help sites with breathing/relaxation exercises instructions

Panic attack relief exercises:

 

http://www.healthcentral.com/anxiety/c/73076/34334/breathing-lessons/

http://www.healthyplace.com/

http://www.stress-relief-exercises.com/

http://www.ehow.com/video_4405003_breathing-exercises-panic-attacks.html

http://www.psybersquare.com/anxiety/panic_relax_I

 
Practicing these daily should help.;)


Keep posting as well. We care and understand.

Scaredy Cat

Definitely agree with the whole "don't google your symptoms" thingie. Yikes! That's enough to send anyone into a tailspin, much less someone who is anxious!

Many of us here (<--ahem) have learned the hard way.

Do you have a therapist? It sounds like you may need an objective and professional sounding board.











M.

I am just nucking futs.

I've had this same issue, with googling any symptom that I had, and I literally could have almost every ailment listed under any medical site.

I also had a very sick son and would google about his condition, and go to forums where people told me my sons doctor wasn't doing enough and my son should have this test and this test, and go out of state to see a doctor that specializes in his condition, etc.

When I would approach my doctor or my sons doctor on conditions, or that I thought he wasn't doing enough, he specifically told me, stay off of google and stay out of forums, and that has helped me.

This forum doesn't bother me because it is helpful, but I understand that google is not always a friend

Glad to see you back here Apple Cakes.

Didn't your DR give you ativan or something else to help with this anxiety? Why aren't you taking it?

The links are awesome tools for help.

Rather than googling symptoms independently,....choose to read a book (or an article) about coping skills and strengthening your resolve! Much more productive....

As S.C. said,...you're not nuts. Or, if you are, you have the whole gang here by your side in the same boat, so you have lots of good company! :)










M.

Ah Apple Cakes, so glad to be your friend! And fellow Texan! Yee ha!

Seriously, sometimes meds are really important to getting better. I don't know much about xanax, so I don't know if it's habit forming or whatever. I'm sorry your DR isn't really able to connect with you and I think you really do need to find a therapist to talk to. Maybe that way you can figure out whether the meds make sense or not. Being able to reflect on your situation calmly (as the xanax might allow) would be a big improvement. And it would probably help your gut.