Posted 12/4/2014 8:21 AM (GMT 0)
Went to our first marriage counseling"meeting" today... Aahh so nerve wreaking!!! Our Pastor from our church met with us, we came to talk with him about a situation with this job offer my husband has. I was deeply concerned because he filled out paper work to start the process of employment behind my back, I was devastated that he would make a life changing decision like that without me. So I told him I was not going to stand by him if he starts this job. (I'm not going to build something on lies, tired of those footholds.) In his defense, he said he didn't want to tell me because I specifically asked him not to seek another job that I will find work (and that's a Big thing for me.) and he wanted to keep that opinion open until we had our first counseling session..
Well the Pastor didn't say who was right or who was wrong...but he did say the right thing👉our problem is lack of communication! Well duh!! I knew that! Its obvious...lol. He did give us good advice and a book to go over....but now that me and my husband are home it seems as if he Wanted our pastor to say who was right!!?! This man!! He said he didn't no what to do with the job offer still &still try to convince me...he wrote down what "he thought" pastor said and went thru it with me, (still trying to convince me, like I wasn't there?) I told him "then why did he ask you if I was worth it and not me?" "...and why did he ask you if you loved me or not and not vise versa?" I don't have no decision he dose.... Take the job, or work on your marriage??? Am I not worth it to this man anymore ??? Why dose someone always have to be right?? Why can't he see we are both in the wrong and we both need to learn right?!! This man is going to be the death of me!!!! Last words he told me before bed is that he loves me and were going to read all the books we could to get things right...(.lol oh man!!!) he also said he try to do Gods work for him and now Gods laughing at him... I told him what could have been a blessing was now a curse because its based on lies. We agreed....for once. All I know is God gave me this man for a reason....aahhh and I may never know the reason but in a crazy-twisted way I'm glad for the tough stuff with him, it only makes me more stronger 💪!