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Posted 12/22/2014 1:51 AM (GMT 0)
Are any of you anxious folks married to another anxious person? Or in a relationship with one? My husband is FAR from anxious and sometimes I'm really glad about that and sometimes I wish we were both anxiety ridden so he could understand me better. Then I wonder, what would it be like if we both were like this? Would he try and talk me off the anxiety ledge, or would he be checking my pulse with me and encouraging me to run to a doctor, etc.

I think since we are all able to support each other, it means that if he were an anxious person too, then he'd be able to talk me off the ledge and I would hopefully do the same for him.

Random thoughts by Megan on a Sunday night.
Posted 12/22/2014 2:04 AM (GMT 0)
MMMM some randomness by me. together you will definitely have better insight, and compassion for each other, and hey, i have a depressive illness and my fiance gets the SAD. along with mild depression otherwise,and we work. it's all about the support. i am glad you raised this as so many people are abandoning relationships because of mental illness..........sadly i see it on the bi-polar forum. i have bi-polar, am engaged and in a loving stable relationship. i hope to be over with her soon. it is all about management, listening, caring and utilising the best options for the best outcomes.
Posted 12/22/2014 2:09 AM (GMT 0)
My girlfriend is pretty much the opposite of me as well in terms of anxiety. Sometimes I wish that she had the same feelings I do when it comes to it, but then I realize that I really wouldn't wish that upon anybody. Most of the time I simply get told "Oh, you're fine, it will all be fine." I know she's right; sometimes she just doesn't understand that I can't just flip the switch to see things that way. Regardless, I wouldn't have her any other way; she has supported me and stuck by me through ER and doctor visits and only poked mild fun at me for it (I know a seven hour ER visit wasn't her favorite Friday night, but boy she lets me hear about it).

I think my anxiety issues would be a little better if we had the same schedules, as I can get extremely anxious on my nights off when she is at work, but other than that...yeah, I guess I've rambled enough!

TL DR: I know how you feel Park!
Posted 12/22/2014 2:13 AM (GMT 0)
I'm definitely thankful that my hubby is a very logical thinker and so he views my disorder the way he views someone with diabetes. He just thinks I have a disease that is out of my control. So this I appreciate. Sometimes though, he's not very patient with me. It's almost like he wants me to snap out of it. He doesn't understand why I am worrying as if there's a threat, but there really is no threat.

I'm glad you are in such a loving relationship HT! It's wonderful to be with someone who understands you.
Posted 12/22/2014 2:14 AM (GMT 0)
My husband has never had anxiety or depression. He's calm as a cucumber. He does get anxious in a crowded Walmart but who doesn't?!

I'm glad he's not anxious or steuggles with depression. As much as I wish he understood anxiety & depression, it's just as well he doesn't & God knows I woykdbt wish it on my worst enemy.


Hugs-
Lisa
Posted 12/22/2014 2:15 AM (GMT 0)
Zack, same here. I definitely wouldn't wish this on anyone! However it might be nice if they had to spend a day in our shoes so they could really see what it's like. I have a feeling things would be a little different. I'm also like you, where I get a little more wound up when my hubby is at work. I'm actually really excited right now because he's a candidate for a work from home job!! I would lose my mind with joy!
Posted 12/22/2014 2:17 AM (GMT 0)
Lisa, I tell ya, Walmart can do it to anyone can't it?!
Posted 12/22/2014 4:31 AM (GMT 0)
My hubs sounds a lot like yours. Very logical.

Mine would never be nervous over his health or death. He did have an "episode" when we were at a crowded brewery one time. He felt like he had to leave because his heart was beating very fast. That's probably the closest he's come to having anxiety.

Total opposites we are. But I like the balance. There's no way I could be with someone as anxious as me. But I would like that he understand my anxiety better.
Posted 12/22/2014 4:41 AM (GMT 0)
My husband is the total opposite. Very calm, very rational, very logical. I sometimes wish he could now what I feel for just one day because I know he doesn't understand. Last year when I was in a really bad place I couldn't eat. I physically couldn't even though I wanted to. I lost about 10 pounds and I am a very small person. I forced myself to eat what I could. But he got upset because he couldn't understand that it wasn't a choice. And his feelings made me more anxious of course. Anyway, I would never wish this on anyone especially someone I love so much, but it would just be nice to be understood. That's not to say he isn't great. He has been my rock. So I'm actually very glad we're opposites.
Posted 12/22/2014 4:44 AM (GMT 0)
Park when i came home from VN i married a redheaded Goddess, six weeks later we lost her Father and
she tried to climb in the grave with him, what followed was 17 years of hell i never knew what was going
to be next, all that time i kept thinking why isnt my love enough to pull her out, "right here i want to apologize to all women married to a dumb azz egoistic man" later in life when i was 48 i had my worst
panic attack, "no one understands me", hello world, it just proves that to fully understand you just have to suffer with PAD, She is ok now days as well as i am but it takes heart and guts to stay together and stay in love, I wish you all Peace!

Larry ***
Posted 12/22/2014 3:56 PM (GMT 0)
Oh wow, Larry. I'm glad to hear you and your wife were strong enough to survive the turmoil.

I'm thankful that my husband is as patient as he can be, but he just doesn't get what it means to have a panic attack. He has come close once because he has needle anxiety and he had a bit of a panic attack after getting a flu shot and he said if that's even close to how I feel, then he is so sorry. I should've felt bad when I saw that happening to him, but I'm not gonna lie, I kinda smiled because I thought finally he would get it. I'm mean. :)
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