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Posted 1/25/2015 10:35 PM (GMT 0)
I have just left a 25 year abusive marriage. I have been diagnosed with PTSD and Anziety disorder. The PTSD is nothing like our service men and women experience. They are the Hero's!
I'm just a mom who has tried to keep my daughter and myself safe. He is cruel, I will leave it at that! I have my own apartment for me and my daughter. She leaves for college in 2 years. I don't always feel safe and struggle with taking medication. Should I should I not. My husband has stolen my identy and signed into all of my medical records. I know it's a violation of my HIPPA rights. He is trying to have me put in a mental institution! Or drug rehab or alcohol rehab. He wants my money and he wants me gone.
I'm am hyperventilating as I tell my story. I have appointment with physicitrist on tues. I will ask for anti. Depressant and Valium.
Can't go on like this Cin
By the way I am the none of the things I am being accused of.

Post Edited By Moderator (Scaredy Cat) : 1/25/2015 8:40:20 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/26/2015 12:09 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome to the forums, I'm so sorry you're going thru this. I was in an abusive relationship for over 10 years by my ex, about 20 years ago and so I know how you feel. He tried to kill me, and it just got bad, eventually he got locked up in prison for 3 years so I was able to get away. There is alot of support here, you've found a great forum. Keep posting whenever you need, and keep safe.
Posted 1/26/2015 12:37 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the support, sometimes I just feel so alone. Cin
Posted 1/26/2015 1:26 AM (GMT 0)
I am sorry that this is happening to you. Welcome to the forums.

I am so glad that you could get away from him and that you are on the right track now. As far as meds go, I am an advocate of them as they really do help. Now not everyone needs them. I know that with new federal law it us harder to get narcotics so if the doc says no do not give up hope. You may need med adjustments or even switches to find the right one for you but in the end it is all worth it, believe me
Posted 1/26/2015 3:45 AM (GMT 0)
MK.

I gave a title to your post. Please feel free to change it if you don't care for it...or you want to convey another message.

However, I choose it because you ARE moving on with your life...and I could not be more proud of you!

...and we ARE here to support you in all that you are going through!!

You have shown great strength in getting you and your daughter to a safe place. Now you can begin to heal and grow...and ultimately do things I bet you never thought were possible...the sky is the limit for you!

I wish you the best in dealing with your ex. Do you have good support from family and friends? Legal counsel?

How about any agencies that help battered women get on their feet and stay safe?

So glad that you are seeing your P-doc coming up. I hope that you can come up with a good plan to help you to feel your best.

Please keep us posted, and let us know how we can best be of support to you now, okay?

With compassion,

S.C.
Posted 1/26/2015 4:55 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for such kind words. I have a good Lawyer, good Doctors and good friends. Sometimes at night I'm most scared.
Like now it's 11:59. I am trying to calm the racing in my head, with chamomile tea. Blessings Cindy
Posted 1/26/2015 3:05 PM (GMT 0)
MK,

I hope that you ended up able to get some good rest, and that you are feeling good and ready to all that you need and want to do today.

Here is the link to our Resources. It is full of great self-help material for anxiety management. You may find the stress relieving exercises helpful, or maybe the therapy worksheets beneficial....for when you have the runaway worries/thoughts...

I really find all of these techniques essential for help with lowering stress.:)

Keep posting.:)

S.C.
Posted 1/26/2015 3:05 PM (GMT 0)
MK,

I hope that you ended up able to get some good rest, and that you are feeling good and ready to do all that you need and want to do today.

Here is the link to our Resources. It is full of great self-help material for anxiety management. You may find the stress relieving exercises helpful, or maybe the therapy worksheets beneficial....for when you have the runaway worries/thoughts...(I know those well!)

https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=9&m=104206

I really find all of these techniques essential for help with lowering stress.:)

Keep posting.:)

S.C.

Posted 1/26/2015 9:00 PM (GMT 0)
So glad you are seeing a psychiatrist. Can you ask for advice on what steps to take to separate yourself from the source of this anxiety? Can you establish protection for your identity? I am so sorry you are struggling, so glad you are safe. Keep moving forward friend, you can do it, you are strong!!! Hugs!!! - Cookin'Quiltin
Posted 1/27/2015 3:11 AM (GMT 0)
wishing you strength and peace
Posted 1/27/2015 9:59 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

It sounds like you have been through a really tough time and I am sorry to here that you have been dealing with anxiety I know how tough that can be to deal with.

I am pleased you have an appointment with a psychiatrist as they will be able to give you the best advice re medications and they will also be able to tell you about therapy options.

Keep us posted we are here to support you.

Hibee
Posted 1/27/2015 12:08 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for your kind and loving support! My family is all over the country, Minnesota, Michigan, Vegas, Colorado, New Mexico. Anyway what I'm getting at I need to get on a plane to actually be with A family member. It is how my x so completely isolated me. For me to reach out to this forum is big deal for me, because I know I will need support in the coming months. My friends have saved me, but it is helpful to be able to talk and ask for advise late at night, when the past 25 years of abuse seem to creep up on me. I get scared. My soon to be x is trying to change my life insurance beneficialary to him, it's in my daughters name, 200,000. My lawyer is aware the police are aware I have changed locks on apartment and got an alarm system. I have tried to do everything I can to stay safe. This is serious and I know it. I'm takin a self defense course, I plan on staying on this earth to see my daughter fly and set herself free from an abusive Father. Thanks for listening, we are in the middle of a snow storm no work no school.'kind of a nice day off.
Psyciatrist
Posted 1/27/2015 12:14 PM (GMT 0)
Psyciatrist gave perphe****ne also clonidine. Should keep my night time demon away... Blessings
Posted 1/27/2015 5:01 PM (GMT 0)
I do hope that the new Rx's work to help you feel calm and safe during this times that anxiety is challenging you.

I think that you are doing an amazing job of putting the pieces back into place for a safe and healthy life for you and your daughter.

I went through a similar circumstances with my first marriage...not to the extent that you did...but I do understand , and am very proud of you!

Keep up the hard and good work. It is not easy...and you are showing amazing strength!

We are here in support always!

S.C.
Posted 1/28/2015 12:16 AM (GMT 0)
is there a womens shelter near you to offer wisdom? Not saying you have to stay there but someone to offer sage advice?
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