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Posted 8/21/2015 2:08 PM (GMT 0)
I would suggest to take it easy. Sheryl herself, the one who helps people dealing with relationship anxiety had started having anxiety herself within two months of her relationship. She is married to him now and has children with him. Take it easy as I told you and seek a psychologist to help you identify the real problem.
Posted 8/21/2015 2:45 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks savruby. I don't even know you but feel like I do from all the support you have been giving me. It is definitely not easy when anxiety and depression make you feel paralyzed. I am currently seeing a new psychologist to help me through and just praying everyday.
Posted 8/21/2015 3:47 PM (GMT 0)
TTHH,

You now have lots of great material to work with...between the program and book recommendations...

...and your continued work in therapy...

...and with the support here, I would say you are on your way to really good growth and recovery!!

Keep up the great work, we are cheering you on! :)

S.C.
Posted 8/21/2015 5:08 PM (GMT 0)
You are most welcome :)
Posted 8/21/2015 9:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Tryingtohavehope,

Nice to find you over here too. Thanks for sharing more about the Conscious Transitions program, savruby. I've stumbled upon it a few times in my own research and wondered whether others had found it helpful.

Reading your comment above about feeling paralyzed by your anxiety made a light bulb go off in my head. I feel like with other manifestations of OCD, for example, excessive hand washing, no one reinforces the individual's anxiety about germs and says, "Well, if you feel that way, your hands must be really dirty!"

It's not fair when we hear, "Well, if you are anxious about this relationship, it must really be wrong!" It makes it that much harder to get the help we need.

I find it more helpful to separate the anxiety from the relationship and address them individually. Just my two cents. I really wish you the best and would love to hear how things progress for you. Thanks again for sharing!
Posted 8/22/2015 8:52 AM (GMT 0)
savruby

I'm usually very patient when it comes to young obnoxious people on the net, but I'm not with you. I deleted all my comments because you keep attacking me and twisting what I said. NO, I did NOT 'LOL' at anyone on here. I LOLed about the fact that Tryingtohavehope had assumed I was inexperienced with anxiety. I said 'LOL, I have been suffering from anxiety for 20 years'. Is that CLEAR enough now? How dare you keep twisting and changing the meaning of my message like that. And AGAIN, I said NOTHING about younger people dealing with anxiety experiencing less pain. Please STOP TWISTING what I said. Enough is ENOUGH already.

Another thing you need to know is that everyone is different and offer support differently on here.

Your comment "I feel that you may not have touched this subject seriously" is totally unnecessary. Some may leave lengthy replies on here, others may not. Some only leave a few words like 'get well soon' and are you going to complain to them that their reply isn't serious enough? Everyone is offering support in their unique way when they can. Some may be logging on from work, others may be posting before they go to bed, others may be just dropping a short message to say hi. You need to stop being so needy and picky on here. We all are here offering support as volunteers and doing the best we can. Show some respect FGS.
Posted 8/22/2015 9:11 AM (GMT 0)
Chronicwellness,

welcome.. yes, it is always best to separate the two, it is so much easier that way. I find myself troubled sometimes.. It's like I need the certainty.. but there is no certainty with this issue.. I hope we all get through this one day..
practicing mindfulness is also great for this type of anxiety. Conscious transitions is helping me a lot, cos I find a lot of people there who offer support, and who are going through the same thing. Sheryl writes beautiful blogs too.
Posted 8/22/2015 9:13 AM (GMT 0)
And thank you for this!

Reading your comment above about feeling paralyzed by your anxiety made a light bulb go off in my head. I feel like with other manifestations of OCD, for example, excessive hand washing, no one reinforces the individual's anxiety about germs and says, "Well, if you feel that way, your hands must be really dirty!"

It's not fair when we hear, "Well, if you are anxious about this relationship, it must really be wrong!" It makes it that much harder to get the help we need.
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