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Posted 10/18/2015 5:45 PM (GMT 0)
Early this morning my grandpa passed away...he had been battling lung cancer for two years, so I knew this was coming soon, but I wasn't expecting it to happen right now. I live with my grandparents and I'm so close with them, they're like my second parents. It's just going to be so weird not being able see or talk to him anymore...I'm going to miss him so much. It all feels so unreal, I feel like I'm in a bad dream that I can't wake up from. I saw how he was suffering everyday and I know he's in a better place now, but I can't help but be sad that he's gone. My anxiety is horrible right now and my grandma is hysterical and I don't know how to comfort her because I'm not really good at that, and I can't even calm myself down. I don't even want to be in this house anymore, but I can't leave my grandma alone because I know she needs me. I'm just scared and I don't know what to do, no one that close to me has ever died before and it's really hard to seeing my family like this.

Post Edited (The Ultimate Worrier) : 10/18/2015 11:48:14 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/18/2015 6:10 PM (GMT 0)
so sorry to hear this...know that you have every right to be anxious right now...any human being with feelings would be in your situation...you will make it thru this day...allow yourself to feel whatever way you need to feel..its ok
Posted 10/18/2015 7:18 PM (GMT 0)
I am deeply sorry to hear about your grandpa.
Hope you find some peace and calm in so much stressful times.
Its difficult time and you surely need to take out time for yourself and face your feelings of grief.Its important .

My prayers are with you and your family .
Posted 10/18/2015 7:26 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss hun. It is hard right now and anxiety does not help but it is okay to feel anxious about change, this has happen to me a number of times in recent years. I know that you have no idea how to help your grandma, that is okay too! The only person that can help her is time. She has lost her partner. She needs time as well, the best that you can do is just be a shoulder to cry on for her. Tell her you love her and you are still there for her. I am so sorry for the loss my dear. Be at peace it will all work out.
Posted 10/18/2015 11:22 PM (GMT 0)
:(

All you and your grandmom can do right now is put one foot in front of the other. You're going to be OK.
So sorry for your loss.
You and your grandmom will be in my prayers.
Posted 10/18/2015 11:42 PM (GMT 0)
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I lost my Dad to lung cancer a few years ago. It's hard...but grief has many layers and stages. Take one day at a time and just be there for each other. Even if it's to cry together. It's perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed and a bit lost. With love and time your family will make it through. Prayers🙏
Posted 10/19/2015 12:06 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.
Posted 10/19/2015 12:13 AM (GMT 0)
T.U.W.

My deepest condolences. I know how difficult it is to lose a loved one. Our hearts seem to barely be able to take the loss, and carry such a burden of sadness.

There are so many emotions and feelings...fear, regret, hopelessness...

...know this is expected at this time...and that this is part of the process we must go through as we grieve.

You and your grandmother will get through this. Be patient with yourselves and the process of getting through these first stages.

You will not always be at the same place...so you can hopefully support one another in turn, and at times simply hold onto each other and weather the storm together.

I wish I had words to comfort you now. There is only one way to reach the other side of this grief...and that is through it. But you WILL get through it, I promise.

Come and talk to us as often as you need to, okay?

Hugs,

S.C.
Posted 10/19/2015 2:22 AM (GMT 0)
My deepest condolences to you and your family. There are never the right words to say when someone experiences a loss as great as this so I will just say that we are here for you whenever you need.
Posted 10/19/2015 3:36 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for your kindness and support. I will be forever grateful for that.
Posted 10/19/2015 4:03 AM (GMT 0)
Make some healthy meals for your grandmother, and be sure she eats. Make her some chamomile tea for calming. Let her cry -- and let yourself cry -- as much as you need to. Your very presence is good for your grandma, as you already noted. Our hearts are with you.
Posted 10/19/2015 4:01 PM (GMT 0)
hi ultimate worrier...
how are you doing today?
Posted 10/19/2015 6:44 PM (GMT 0)
Not very good, but thank you for asking.
Posted 10/19/2015 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
T.U.W.

Our continued thoughts and prayers are with you. It is so difficult, but take things minute by minute for now...

....it will not always be this hard.

We are here for , so post as needed.

S.C.
Posted 10/19/2015 11:01 PM (GMT 0)
Very sorry for the loss of your grandpa and that you are going through so much right now. May God give you extra strength right now.
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