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Posted 11/20/2015 1:01 AM (GMT 0)
Why am I back?! Well, I'm pregnant. I haven't been on here for a while, I was doing really well with my anxiety and then BAM, an unplanned pregnancy puts me back into the pits. In a way, I think my big episode last year sort of prepared me for pregnancy anxiety, but it still sucks.

This is just surreal, and the difference between now and last year is that last year I legitimately didn't have anything tangible to worry about. But I can't run away from this. This is happening, I'm going to be a mom. This is nuts. Any words of advice or comfort from the moms and dad's here? This mama could use it!
Posted 11/20/2015 1:38 AM (GMT 0)
Hi MM and welcome back!

Congratulations. ..this may be an exciting and surprising and anxiety causing time for you now...

...but with help and time, I am sure you are going to get back to that place of recovery you were enjoying.

Have you talked with your OBGYN about what your options are for anxiety management?

Self help is always an option anyone can employ...so be sure and take advantage of our Resources. ..there may be new material since you were last here.:)

Keep posting with us as well. We have at least two other expecting moms here that I know of currently. ..you could share and support each other to be sure!

You are going to be just fine...we have seen plenty of moms through their pregnancies...and we'll do the same for you!

S.C.
Posted 11/20/2015 1:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hi, and welcome! COngrats on the pregnancy, how far along are you? Well, I can tell you, pregnancy itself is a struggle but with anxiety (at least for me it heightens every sensation and throws my anxiety into overload!) But you always have people here to support you and help every step of the way and I am here too!!! Going through the same thing as you, anytime you want to chat I am here :)
Posted 11/20/2015 1:57 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you! I'm 5 weeks, it's only taken me a week to come crawling back haha. I have reached out to a prenatal therapist and have an appointment on Monday. It comes and goes with my hormones, but today was awful.
Posted 11/20/2015 4:08 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome back, MM!!! It sounds like you have already started taking the appropriate steps to handling your anxiety while pregnant! I'm 17 weeks and can totally relate to the hormones doing a number on us! Keep posting as usual and we'll get through the highs and lows together!!

Big congratulations!!!
Posted 11/20/2015 10:16 AM (GMT 0)
Hi MM

Welcome back and congratulations on the pregnancy.

Well done for reaching out here and with your therapist i'm sure you will be able to manage this anxiety as you have done before.

Keep us posted.

Hibee
Posted 11/20/2015 12:16 PM (GMT 0)
What worries me the most is that I'll have postpartum depression and will be an unfit mother. My mate and I have only been dating a couple of months, although I've known him for years. 2 months ago I was single, living with a friend, and now I'm pregnant, living with my boyfriend and planning a future. Don't get me wrong, this is exactly what I want out of life, it just happened way too soon for me to comprehend.

It's funny, I'm meeting his parents for the first time tomorrow and we're telling them the news. Anxious much?
Posted 11/20/2015 4:13 PM (GMT 0)
Honestly, for me, the first trimester was definitely harder on me then the second ( I don't know if Park can vouch for that too)but maybe because I definitely had more pregnancy symptoms.

Don't worry at all about being an unfit mother!!! Everyone is prone to mistakes and as long as you are not so hard on yourself and let mother instincts take their course! I don't think anyone is really ever "ready" to be a mom, I think its a learning process that starts when you are pregnant and knowing that there is a life inside you that you need to protect by protecting yourself. Good luck, and very happy for you!
Posted 11/20/2015 4:18 PM (GMT 0)
I keep thinking that I regret not trying to prevent this pregnancy, and I'm also a little angry that my bf didn't try to prevent it either. What were we thinking? I know what he was thinking, he's 35 and wants to be a dad more than anything. I'm 24 and the fact that I could raise a child is a pretty new idea. I look up natural miscarriages, and I sometimes secretly hope that nature will help me out.

Ive been excited since finding out, but I can't help but feel so much regret and that I'm not going to be able to go through with this. I just keep trying to read stories about women who have gone through the same thing and ended up falling in love with their babies and that all those anxious depressed thoughts were worthless.
Posted 11/20/2015 6:28 PM (GMT 0)
MM,

I had my first daughter when I was younger than you. I can tell you that she is truly a pride and joy in my life. I cannot imagine not having her, and all that she brings to our family...and those that know and love her.

She is a young adult now...and although it wasn't all easy breezy getting through all the phases of our relationship...

...I can tell you now, that she and I are wonderful friends...and I treasure this stage of our journey.:)

The postpartum period is short. I do not say this to minimize it at all...but to emphasize that it is temporary...and with help (if needed) you can get through it...

...to enjoy a lifetime of being a mother...and enjoy all of its magical moments.:)

With encouagement,

S.C.
Posted 11/20/2015 7:20 PM (GMT 0)
Mm,
I was an unplanned pregnancy. My parents always wanted children, but when my mom found out she was pregnant with me she was at the height of her career and had the same worries as you. She said that she was worried she would be unfit and unable to give me proper care, but when I was born our bond was so undeniable that all those anxious fears she had before were minuscule in comparison to the love we had for one another.

Wishing you the best
Posted 11/23/2015 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
Marj, you are going to be a wonderful mommie, how does this old man know?
Because you care and are concerned about the future you and your family
face. "It's been done before kid, just enjoy the ride". Peace

Larry ***
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