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Posted 12/28/2015 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Hi all this is my first time posting so bear with me. I have had generalized anxiety disorder for almost ten years. I go through phases where it will be nonexistent and others where it'll be horrendous and simple things such as going to the movies are difficult. Up until this year my anxiety always stemmed from not having access to a bathroom and not being in control of leaving a situation. This year however I just haven't physically felt that well and my anxiety has been random and worse.

I always got anxious before traveling but was always fine once I got to where I was going. Last year my boyfriend and I went to punta Cana and I had a hard time breathing with the humidity and was very anxious one day. We then went to Texas and I was fine and had a great time. This October we went on a cruise to Bermuda and I was extremely sick the entire trip. I had only my second panic attack of my life the first day on the cruise and the entire time was so sick I feel like I ruined his trip. I think it made it worse that I could not get off of the boat.

Well we are going to cancun tomorrow with 7 of his family members. I am extremely anxious. I am anticipating that I am not going to feel good and need to come home. I am meeting them at the airport because I feel more comfortable doing that. We are flying direct so it's a 4 1/2 hour flight but I am freaking out about everything. I just need some kind words. I'm only 26 and sometimes I just wish I could live a normal life. I hate this

Post Edited (Ashleyv123) : 12/27/2015 6:15:25 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 12/28/2015 1:56 AM (GMT 0)
I can understand. I have only been on a plane one time 10 years ago (I'm around your age). I was nervous and got sick on the plane, but since then I have avoided airplanes. I have metal in my body and with increased security over the years I am terrified of setting off metal detectors or being searched. I think what it comes down to, is not overthinking it. Try to distract yourself with a hobby. Only think about one step at a time. It might help to talk to your doctor (I know its short notice, but if you can get an early appointment, it might help). They might be able to prescribe your something to take to help relax your nerves for the trip.

I think it's also good to talk to your boyfriend about what's going on if you haven't already. Tell him what he can do for you. Walk him through it. For example, if talking to you about fun things to keep your mind off the travel helps, then ask him to do that as much as possible. If drinks are available on the plane and one or two drinks will help, go for it (just don't over do it). If him rubbing your back or head helps to relax you, ask him to do that. I think it helps to have someone really understand and be willing to help ease the anxiety.

I think a lot of people get nervous about air travel. Picture the fun you'll have once reaching your destination. Don't ever feel like you'll ruin things for others. You're not a burden. They invited you with for a reason.
Posted 12/28/2015 4:31 AM (GMT 0)
Heck Mam whats normal anyway?
As a young man i joined the Army, went to jump school at Fort Campbell Ky. I was afraid of everything the tower, the thought that i would die because of a bad parachute ect. They called us 5 jump Johnie's thats how many jumps it took to
become jump qualified. "I was so scared that it was after the last jump and i was drinking with my buddies that i realized
i had never been in an airplane before, lol. I turned white and it shook up the other guys we all had a good laugh after that
all happened a long time ago, joined the Navy after the Army and became a Senior Master Parachutist. 571 jumps.
Now to give you the punch line, no Mam i do not to this day like to fly, but i do because i know its safer than riding in a cab to the airport. Peace

Larry ***
Posted 12/30/2015 9:12 PM (GMT 0)
Try thinking abt something you look forward to in every situation.. getting a cup of coffee at th e airport (or a glass of wine), seeing the ocean, chatting with your family members, making a memory with your bf :) take lots of pictures!
Posted 12/30/2015 9:35 PM (GMT 0)
Just think about the past trips and how you made it through them before, even if you did feel crapty sometimes. Have a great trip and enjoy your time with your bf and his family! :)
Posted 12/30/2015 10:29 PM (GMT 0)
Hi A.V.,

Sorry I missed you before your departure. ..

If you are able.to check this thread...please see our Resources at the top of the main forum page for great coping skill suggestions that will help you manage any anxiety you may have while traveling...

...but hopefully you will be worry free for your trip! :)

Continue posting with us when you return if you find it helpful. We care, understand and are here to listen anytime. :)

Scaredy Cat
Posted 12/31/2015 2:05 AM (GMT 0)
Hope ya feel better soon, im sure ya will, it aint easy being like this but we can all help each other a bit, god bless and good luck, (dont forget to smile)
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