Why so many silent viewers?

Hi FTH,

I am sorry you were discouraged by those numbers...

I know percentage wise, it's not a high amount of responses. However, this is pretty typical for a site of this size. (we are global)

Due to the very nature of our disorder...many members here struggle to just read others experience...much less respond.

Or they feel they have nothing to offer...lack the confidence to speak up...are not fluent in English...ect.

Please reconsider...and remember it's quality over quantity when it comes to this situation. ;)

If you stick around, I think you'll find it is worth it.

With encouragement,

S.C.

P.S. I'd love to hear how your day went!!

I am tired. but the turtle tries. stay with us. sending many healing thoughts. sorry I am not much chop atm.

I just found this site yesterday. I am browsing to see where I fit. Sorry if this annoys you. Not trying to.

How do you know they are trolling the website?

You know this is an anxiety forum, in a website which has separate forums for many other conditions, right?
There are many people from other boards who come here and read posts but have nothing to say about anxiety related things.

If you get a reply, this means you get "support".

Although I would not be critical of anyone who reads this forum and does not respond to other's posts -- that is anyone's right to do -- I do think this forum may be too dependent upon one or two people -- particularly Scaredy Cat. She really carries this place, especially since Kitt passed away. So, SC, many thanks for the good work you do here! And I guess maybe the rest of us should look for ways to be more helpful, when we can.

Sometimes on anxiety forums (not just this one) I think people come to the forum feeling terrible and needing help and they don't think they have anything much to offer to others. But even those of us who are suffering often have insights that others would find valuable. After all, who understands better than someone who has been there?

So rather than bristling at the OP's post, I will take it as a reminder that we should all try to look for ways to contribute more and be more helpful -- taking SC as a model of how we can contribute.

i dont see the need to respond to threads that i dont have personal experience in and about meds i dont have experience with. it would just clutter up the form.

Personally I try not to take to heart how many people view or respond to any of my posts. I've never posted here but I post on the prostate cancer forum here and there are times I realize some topics I start are not for everyone. Some may click on it out of curiosity but it may not relate to them at all. Sometimes my posting is just a way to get things out. For sure when I post a specific question and do not get many responses it can be a little frustrating but I realize most people reading it just do not have the answers I am looking for, so I am sure no slight is intended. Also as a previous poster mentioned many people just don't have the time and just like to read others posts for information, so whether you realize it or not you may be helping many who choose never to respond.

I started looking (trolling???) on this anxiety forum because my elderly Mom suffers from debilitating anxiety and was having some major panic attacks before xanax helped lessen the attacks some. She's in a nursing home now after 4 hospital stays within the past year but most of her caregivers agree it's her worrying and anxiety that have really been keeping her in such a poor state. She was always a worrier and prone to anxiety but with getting older and not being able to care for herself it has multiplied so much that she is becoming a shell of who she used to be. With her other health issues it seems almost a lost cause at this point because just when we would make headway in one area something else would happen that would have to take priority.

I suffered from extreme anxiety growing up and finally in my 20's I was in psychotherapy for many years which basically saved my life because I was self medicating with alcohol and saw no way out. So I feel for those of you that are in the grips of the anxiety/depression/low self-esteem type madness. It does seem hopeless but as someone who eventually fought through it and got to the other side I can absolutely tell you it can be done. Fortunately my psychotherapist was fantastic for me and I was seeing her a minimum of once a week for years, and sometimes twice a week when I was really not coping.

I wish you all well...Jim

Wow Force... that was extremely insensitive on your part. People are not on here 24/7 to instantly respond to a post. Patience is a virtue...

That being said, there have been many posts that I read, where someone has already responded with the same exact thing I would've said myself, so I don't bother duplicating advice. And like some others have said, we don't all experience the exact same symptoms of anxiety/panic attacks, or have experience with some of the meds people ask about, so there's no point in responding to something you have no experience with.

I hope you'll change your mind about this forum, because to be totally honest, this one is by far the best when dealing with anxiety and panic disorders. You just have to have patience when you post something, you'll get a response, guaranteed.

Best of luck to you... Fox

Cat, Thanks for your welcome and well wishes for my Mom.


When I get some free time I will probably try to ask some questions relating to her, ways I can help, etc. It can be very frustrating to deal with because even though we realize she is stuck in a mind full of anxiety and panic, the simplest of questions sets off the anxiety and she cannot even respond. I try very hard to stay in the moment with her and avoid questions but even then anything that is out of the ordinary or what she deems to be out of her routine (Which is sadly sitting in her wheelchair waiting for her next pills or waiting for the staff to take her to the bathroom or bring her her meals that she really does not want to eat. She gave up anything fun that she used to love to do; such as reading or watching tv) sets off her anxiety. If we take her out of her room she gets worked up that the staff won't find her no matter how many times we explain they are happy for her to get out. She is really just stuck in her world and anything different probably sets off a big loss of control for her and creates instant panic/anxiety.

Anyway, thanks again....Jim