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Posted 1/9/2007 7:11 PM (GMT 0)
hi again you guys , the force's life sucks sad just found out my hubby has to go to falklands for another 4 months in june nono carnt belive it . every year he has to leave us for 4 months . this has been goin on for last 5 years since i had my son.. he got made up to sargent last year in the r a f , and got told he wouldnt have to go away until every 4 years . its been 9 months since he got made up and they are sending him again . ime having a bad time at the moment with nervs , its goin to be a long 4 months when he goes . i hate being here on my own with kids , i can never sleep properly when hes not here sad which adds to my stress . only good thing is this time hes not going to a danger zone :-) thank god but still its the kids my son is 5 he made me cry yesterday . he said daddy is going to the south pole were the penguins are and hes going to bring me back happy feet , lol .  o i laughed and cried at the same time . sorry for going on , just i am worried about night times on my own .  my daughter is 15 and a great confort but carnt tell her to mutch cos dont want to rub my nervesnuss on to her . i just wish the world  could get better and stop fighting . sorry for geting to deep . i just want us to all be happy . if he comes home and next year they send him away again i dont think i could cope sad  this has been a blow to me again . it could be irac next time .  ay least this time i can talk to you guys xxxx sam xxxxxx
Posted 1/9/2007 7:25 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you and your family is going through this. I know this may not help, but at least it's only for four months, it could be alot longer. Come talk here when ever you need too.

I understand about the worry, HUGS!!!!
Posted 1/9/2007 7:44 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there
I am really sorry for what you have to go thru and your kids not to mention your hubby
I know it is hard when you have a teen daughter that age I have one as well and although I have tried not to let her p/u on my anxiety certain circumstances have made her a very anxious young woman
I would suggest that you do talk to her as her mom and as her friend let her know that it does bother you to be alone at night ,just not in a lot of detail maybe ya know
( my daughter sleeps with me when hubby is working 12 hrs at night )
I do understand but not the going for mths
When hubby was trucking he was gone for weeks at a time that I could not handle went into stress mode constantly thats when daughter started sleeping with me lol......
Now as far as your hubby goes my hats off to him for his courage and his duty he is performing
You deserve alot of thanks as well for your part in his duty IMO .........
What you and he as well as your children do for the world is fantastic so words cannot express my and other's greatitude
Please know we do understand the feelings you have about being alone
I wont lie and say I know what it is like
to have dad and hubby gone to do this at all ........I dont and I can only empathize with you and let you know WE all are grateful and we WILL be here for you at all times one of us will be here okay
The ppl are great on here and I can say I am proud to be part of HW and them
If you need to talk about 4 in the am 430 I am usually on now later okay
I also have all my info under name if you want to chat
Others will be supporting you as well
God Bless You and God Bless Men like your Hubby and women like you with children to look after as well as worry about him ........
My heart is going out to you and yours
In my thoughts and prayers
Take care
Lyn
Posted 1/9/2007 8:39 PM (GMT 0)
thank you . are boys do a great job , i no it could be worse , and for longer but i will miss him so mutch . the next 5 months will fly then when june comes it will drag . the trouble will get worse and are boys will allways be going out to these countryes . its heart breaking . my mum keeps saying i will be fine , the funny thing is this time i think she might be right cos i have found you guys . this is so comforting to no you are all over the world and i can talk to you all . god bless us all xxxxxxxxxxxxx sam xxxxx
Posted 1/9/2007 10:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Sam, hope your doing ok?... :-) I know what its like to try and keep the anxiety away from your kids,Its good to talk to them too though and let them know how mums feeling sometimes.Kids cans almost always sense your feelings even when you dont tell them!..my daughter does lol. You have good friends here....Stay positive ..and if you ever want to chat you can always drop me an e-mail or i.m me on msn....TAKE CARE  jayne xxx
Posted 1/9/2007 10:53 PM (GMT 0)
thank you hunny . my kids no somthing aint right . keep asking me am i ok . its breaking me into . this life aint all its cracked up to be. people think got everything not so. its so hard , in the forces its not the same as being on sivy street . we live by the rules .  tony bler . sorry u guys got to get it out xx feel its ok with you guys xx sam xxxx

Took out that there cuss word lol

Post Edited By Moderator (Howlyncat) : 1/10/2007 12:43:32 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/10/2007 7:46 AM (GMT 0)
Glad we can be of help hun
I edited the " cuss word k " lol
Vent all you want we are here for you for sure
Got your message on AD forum
Anything I can do I will try my best
Lyn
Posted 1/10/2007 8:07 PM (GMT 0)
i know how you feel when you don't want to be home alone.  i cannot stand being home alone at night, and i have 2 children as well.  i don't know why that is, but that's when my anxiety goes wild and my mind starts thinking of terrifying things to scare me.  when i have either my sister sleep over, or my boyfriend, i'm fine, but twhen i'm alone, everything crashes down on me.  i've gotten better, and a few days ago, i forced myself to sleep alone, so i think i may be overcoming this fear by throwing myself in the situation.  in the day time, i'll think about it, and think to myself 'i know i'll be fine tonight'.  but the time i get home from work, i catch myself asking my sister if she wants to sleep over, or my mom, etc.  or catch myself packing up my stuff and my kids, and sleeping over at grandma's house.  i hate it, because before all this anxiety hit, i would pick my kids up after work, go home, and have a great time, and go to bed.  but it's not so pleasant anymore.  so i thought i'd just drop a quick line and let you know that you're not alone with this anxiety.  my boyfriend will laugh at me at the fact that i don't like to sleep alone, so i don't call him much to come over and spend the night.  people that dont have anxiety seem to think that the ones that do are 'crazy'!!  you have no idea how many times people have laughed at me for my worries.  i can laugh at myself afterwards too, but at the time, it's not very nice!
Posted 1/11/2007 9:56 AM (GMT 0)
Great input worrier
I use to have Cait sleep with me to but that was for both of us
I am alot better now with doing the CBT and other techniques
You all be well
Luvs
Lyn
Posted 1/13/2007 8:15 PM (GMT 0)
hi you guys , thanks for your answers . been a great help . must say been on the wine to day at a party feeling very relaxed . its nice to let your hiar down once in a while . iv had a bad few days but trying to think posotive, i feel so lucky to have you lot to talk to xxx my mum is coming to stay when hubby goes away , god noes what i would do without her xx bless her xx i told her about this web site , she said go for it . she loves the ideia of me chatting to you all xx she thinks its great to talk xxxxxxxxxxxx
Posted 1/13/2007 8:17 PM (GMT 0)
can i ask what is c b t xxxx
Posted 1/13/2007 8:53 PM (GMT 0)
 

 CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Put it into GOOGLE and you should get loads of info...

 Its worked really well for me...you learn to change the way you think about things i.e things that trigger your anxiety/panic and negative thinking etc. give it a go ! Take Care..jayne xxx

Posted 1/14/2007 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
thanks jaydyl , you lot have been talking about this loads but never new what it was xxx will give anything a try xx samxx
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