Codependent and depressed

Here's the thing though "feeling" vulnerable and "being" vulnerable are too very different things.  It sounds to me like you are a smart, compassionate and lovely person.  Congratulations on finishing college!! That's awesome!! You should be excited and looking forward to a great future, not feeling depressed (I'm not blaming you here, please don't get me wrong!!).  I suggest that you seek some advice from your doctor and maybe get some counselling.  There may be a physical reason why you feel so bad.  I also know that there are support groups called CODA (co-dependents anonymous) who can really help and support you through this

That said, I know it will be very hard to do this.  I know, I stayed in a marriage for three years with a guy who called me a "fat unworthy pig". Nice! I felt that if I left him no-one else would ever love me.  I'm now in a great relationship with a man who calls me beautiful and would never cheat (well he'd better not!!). I guess my point is, that although it looks bleak now, and will hurt you, things will be better in the long run.  The fact that this guy say's he doesn't love you the same way could be contributing to your depression.  I wish you all the best, please keep us posted on how you go, and please find a way to reach out to someone else because you are worth it.

Big supportive hugs my friend.

Hello KC

Welcome to HW were so happy you have joined us here. You will find pleanty of suport here from friends that have been or are going thru the same things you are. It won't take you long to start feeling like you are a part of our lil family.

First off I want to give you a ((((((Big Hug)))))) from my heart. My X treated me the same way and one day it was like I woke up and decided he gets his strength from be-littling me and making me feel so weak so I decited to call him on some of his bluff's just to see how he acted. Boy did the tables turn at that time. He thought he was going to die when he started feeling like I didn't NEED him anymore. At that point he decided he would do anything to keep me but after seeing this it was to late for me I didn't want to be with him anymore and I realized I did love him but I was more obsessed with him and not being alone then the love I had for him. Honey you will get thru this and it will take time but you have friends here that will be here for you anytime you need to talk. Please don't throw your life away on someone less deserving of you. You deserve the best and the best is out there waiting for the right moment to show it's face. Please keep posting and my email is listed under members if you ever need to talk. Bless you hun and good luck with the desisions you make for your life.