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Posted 5/8/2007 8:59 AM (GMT 0)

If you have read my previous post, you'll know why I'm talking about this.

Sorry to burden you all.

I have just been reading a profile website and came across a couple of people I know.

One of them has been with her boyfriend for two years. Last time I looked on her profile she was with him and saying all nice things about him and blah. This time I checked it says I'm single now time to have fun!

The other one is another girl I know she had split from her bf a while ago but remained really close friends with him. Now they appear to have fallen out and by the looks of it wiped each other out of their lives.

These things both made me scream inside, It makes me down and want to cry. I panic and worry and think 'Theres no hope for me and my relationship then'. I don't know why this happens to me, and I know I shouldn't let ti bother me but I can't help it. My heart pounds and a feeling of dread pours over me.

What is this, and why do I panic/bother about these things. I seem to be obsessed over relationships! Help me!

Posted 5/8/2007 2:32 PM (GMT 0)
nono  "Overthinking alert" Scotsgal!

Whatever will be - will be..No use worrying about stuff that 'might' happen..I have learned that this really is a waste of energy.

Do you have any hobbies/interests that you can pursue? Something to really take your mind off everything around you..could be as easy as doing a jigsaw. How about planning a holiday for you and your bf - create 'positive' change in your life.

Ban yourself from surfing the net for other peoples problems - start looking at inspirational/funny/and positive websites.

At the end of each day, how about challenging yourself to writing down at least three positive things that may have made you smile..

When you get up in the morning start by focusing on the positive things ahead in your day..suprise youself by doing something kind and unexpected for somebody else - for me that always a great 'buzz".

Maree

Posted 5/8/2007 10:09 PM (GMT 0)
we seem to be continually covering the same ground, I suggest you go back and again read our replies to your earlier posts

Posted 5/8/2007 10:41 PM (GMT 0)
I may have said this before, Scotsgirl, but I really like your signature.

Sounds as if you may be over-thinking things a bit, indeed. Sometimes it's hard to stop, though, isn't it? Well, I agree that you should try distracting yourself if you can. Remember to be kind to yourself. There's a book called "The Artist's Way" that I think you might find helpful, whether or not you consider yourself a creative person. Being "kind to yourself" basically means you need to give yourself a break. I can't tell you how to do that, but the book is a good one. It's been around a long time, too, so you can probably find it used.
Posted 5/9/2007 12:09 AM (GMT 0)
I believe Maree is spot on and yes we have gone over and over this hun you have to stop over thinking it CAN be done
'Do CBT something to occupy that mind that is dwelling in some pit that may and no doubt wont even be a part of YOUR life ........

LIVE N LAUGH

Posted 5/9/2007 8:12 AM (GMT 0)
To Harry. I know I may be covering the same ground and I'm sorry if I'm annoying you. Its just that I don't feel I get support anywhere else so I find here a good reassurance. I don't quite understand what is happeneing to me so when people who do understand help me and answer me it makes me feel better. I'm really sorry if I am annoying/ or boring you as I really don't want to but I am just trying to vent how I am feeling.

Thanks all for you continual support.

Katie
Posted 5/9/2007 9:26 PM (GMT 0)
You are not annoying anyone
We are tying to get you to move on hun and not worry about " what may Never Happen"
Others relationships do not mean yours will be a mess

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