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Posted 9/10/2007 3:26 PM (GMT 0)
Hi. I don't know what to do, I'm at work and about to have a panic attack...Apparently the klonopin I'm taking is doing nothing for me. For the millionth time this year I'm about to be blown off by another guy, rejected again, lied to and I can't take it, it's consuming me. My roommate just emailed me to tell me she doesn't think I take care of our apartment well enough and I act like a teenager when she is the one who gives me the silent treatment. Work is stressful and I need to go somewhere and cry and I can't!!!

Please, there has to be some way out of this mess in my head, what do I do?
Posted 9/10/2007 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
First I would want to have a face to face with the room mate and get it all out if it were I personally
This emailing is kinda childish in itself I think but thats me

As for the guys ..........you dont have to have someone to validate you sweetie you are a good person you will find the right one sometimes it takes time ............and then you will have your knight .......
Take a break from it all the guys and the roomie after you talk about all of this

Hot tub and candlelit room is what you seem to be needed right now not more to stress and get a/p over
Wishing you all the best

LYN
Posted 9/10/2007 3:47 PM (GMT 0)
i met this guy on thursday night and had such an amazing night, we had such a connection, he said the sweetest things to me and asked me to hang out again on tuesday night (tomorrow). but i haven't heard a peep from him since thursday, if a guy really liked me he would've called by now to confirm or just say hi, right?
Posted 9/10/2007 4:44 PM (GMT 0)

Hi, I can understand your anxiety. You are dwelling on these issues and they are snowballing down hill.

If you met this guy one time and you don't hear from him again, that is not to say you have done anything wrong.  You are a great person and lots of people say they will see you again and never call.  This is the nature of dating.  Be good to you, don't depend on some one you just met to do it for you.

Now your room mate.............IMHO, sending you email at work is uncalled for and only upsetting you.  Try to sit down and talk to her, set your boundaries.  She should not be sending you personal emails at work unless it is very important and to just email you to slam you is way out of line.

Look for a new room mate sweetie, yours is not very considerate.

Try to stay in the moment. If your at work, just take care of work and try to keep the away from work issues from taking over your thinking. Sound fair?  It works, I know I have to do that very thing.

Hugs to you.

Posted 9/10/2007 4:51 PM (GMT 0)

Jenni462 said...
i met this guy on thursday night and had such an amazing night, we had such a connection, he said the sweetest things to me and asked me to hang out again on tuesday night (tomorrow). but i haven't heard a peep from him since thursday, if a guy really liked me he would've called by now to confirm or just say hi, right?

Okay, I'm a guy.

If it were me, I may or may not call. Whether I did or didn't doesn't mean that I didn't like you. He may be worried about being pushy. That's something a lot of us guys worry about, believe it or not. We feel if we seem desperate, it makes us less masculine and therefore less desirable. Maybe it's silly, but that's just the way it is.

So I'd give him until tomorrow night and don't worry about it until then.
Posted 9/10/2007 7:41 PM (GMT 0)
I agree... im a guy also, and I wouldnt have called you either, girls run away if we seem desperate... so I would have waited till tuesday also.

Its just a stupid game... if I had it my way, we should be able to call the next day, and you would be excited that I liked you... but it doesnt work that way... it sucks...lol
Posted 9/10/2007 11:25 PM (GMT 0)
i gave in and decided to text him...hours and hours ago...no response...im definitely being blown off. i feel like im losing control of myself, im not equipped to handle this repeated rejection and also this level of deception because he clearly faked everything he said to me on thursday.
Posted 9/11/2007 3:30 AM (GMT 0)
Jenni,
I am sorry that you are feeling like this. Step back and breathe. You are not losing control, it just feels like it. Keep telling yourself that you are safe and that the anxiety/panic cannot and will not hurt you.
As far as the roomate...is she in high school? sheesh...can't even face you...time to have a chat.
As far as the guy...his loss. Guys play these games and it's ridiculous. The right one is out there..give it time. Don't let some idiot guy make you feel like this. Just remember you are special and a good person.
xoxoxox
eveie
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