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Posted 10/30/2007 4:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone.  This is my first time on here.  I was looking for a place to chat since people tend to not understand panic disorder.  I've had it for several years now, lost a fiance to it because he didn't understand it and pretty much distanced myself from a majority of people.  I went almost a full year having no attacks, however it recently started up again and I haven't been at work for two days.  UGH!  I worry that it may end up affecting my current relationship.  Luckily both of us are home-bodies, however we've only been together for a year so he's never had the opportunity to witness it to the full extent until two nights ago.  He didn't know what to do...although I didn't ask for his help either.  Can anyone give me any tips or thoughts on how to keep your relationship healthy in this circumstance?
Posted 10/30/2007 7:37 PM (GMT 0)

welcome winterwhite,

I am new here as well and suffer frm P/A for 6 yrs now. I obsess about my health. Im married and for the most part Im very quiet about my anxiety. Just recently broke down to my husband about it and he was pretty understanding. He's one of those people that never has any worries..must be nice. I think the key is to be with someone that is understanding & supportive. I know it must be frustrating for someone that has no clue what your going through but if you don't have support it doesn't work. If he really cares for you, which im sure he does, he will understand. I think they freak out more if they don't know. Keep posting. Im finding alot of support here and it makes me feel so not alone...

Take care

Posted 10/30/2007 9:20 PM (GMT 0)

Hell Winterwhite and Welcome to Healing Well.

I would like to suggest that you sit down with your b/f and tell him of your anxiety disorder.  That alone may help decrease your anxiety.  It is hard to hide your anxiety and pretend like all is well. :)

Trust him enough to share with him and if he cares about you he will understand.

Remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.

Hugs

Kitt

Posted 10/31/2007 10:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hello all, I'm new as well.  I feel the best way for someone to understand is to get them informed about it. They will not truly understand unless they experience it, but the more they know the better they will understand. My wife is real supportive of my condition. At first when I started having panic attacks she would keep asking what she could do for me. I was straight up with her and told her I feel better just doing my breathing and just tring to realx. When she would keep asking me what she could do I would actually feel worse. As far as any relationship the best thing I think is to be open and honest. I would try and hide it at work, People would ask if I'm ok, at first I would tell them "teah I'm fine", but really I wasn't. I have learned to be more open but not too open. As informing someone is the best you could do to help them understand. I agree with skitt to just sit down and talk would probably help lessen your anxiety. Another thing I have learned is to take care of myself first. I was always doing for everyone else. I would put my issues aside to help someone else. I have now devoted 15 mins or more to myself to just relax, meditate, breathe. I look forward to it every day. Like I said my wife is supported and realizes that I need that time for me. Like mtngrl34 said if he really cares he will understand and accept you for who you are. Hope this helps and good luck. Keep your head up! Keep us posted. Bye for now, allmixedup
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