Hello AkiPuppy and welcome back.
I am Pink Grandma from the Hep forum. I am sorry for your loss. I happened to read your post and it hit a nerve. I too lost my husband last year in April. I also have to take a sleeping aid still. I hate it but when I don't I'll wake up 2-3 times a night and be all tired and grumpy at work.
I also have fibromyalgia and am currently fighting with my insurance to cover Lyrica. So like you I am in pain a lot. Seems like we have a lot in common.
I currently moderate the Hep forum and it has literally saved my sanity. Isn't HealingWell just full of wonderful caring people?
Take care, and keep posting.