HW needs your help with A/P sensitivity feelings

im always paranoid that ive offended someone or made someone angry, or pushed people away- when in reality, i havent and its ME being highly negative and overly sensitive.

when people complain about having a cold, i get internally angry cos what i live with on a daily basis is sheer hell, but you dont hear me whining all the time? i know thats unfair, but when a colleague doesnt come to work cos they are feeling a bit 'under the weather', i feel a bit bitter, lilke telling them to toughen up. i know thats a bad approach.

i am assertive and strong by nature, but people confuse that for me being an 'ice queen' (or so ive been told). i think im a warm person, i just have trust issues and im trying.

i am overly sensitive to my surroundings, enviromental factors etc

im hyper sensitive about my physical appearance- it stops me from leaving my home, when in reality, i am not obese- im curvy. i spent the 1st 22yrs of my life like a stick insect (a 6ft one) and after my gall bladder was whipped out, i stacked on 30kg. this is my biggest sensitivity and insecurity.



Maz XX

I am..... was, and always have been very sensitive of others and what they may think or feel about me
BUT
I have decided I
"DO NOT CARE anymore
I am what I ams..........

CBT and a special Lady helped me thru this alot

Luvs
Cowgirl UP

Check out our resources. There is a paperback book available from Amazon:
The Highly Sensitive Person

by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.

You may find this a helpful resource to learn how to deal with your sensitive nature.

Take care
Kitt

All,

I'm usually very nervous and overly concerned about possibly offending people. I tend to be super observant about things, people, and behaviors around me, and I guess I just expect others are the same. So I almost expect them to take some giant offense at every little thing I do, and then blow up. It's funny - if someone said something that struck me the wrong way, I'd just speak up in an ordinary way, and not blow up at them, but just somehow, I expect that people around me are stewing and brewing and constantly thinking about something I did and letting their opinion of me fester.

Heck, it even took me ten minutes to type this post because I was worried about how it would come across! :)

percycat

Maz

Thanks. Dyslexia is something else i have to deal with on a daily basis and is probably the cause of a lot of my anxiety and why i am so sensitive to situations, it is something which i am embarresed about and i avoid situations were i need to wright things down in public as my hand writing and spelling is awful. I only officialy found out i had dyslexia when i was 25 and at college i felt really let down by my school as i did not get the support i needed and as a result did not enjoy school one bit. I got bullyed at school by the other pupils as i did not pick things up as quick as them which also knocked my confidence.

Thank you Maz for your kind words it means a lot to me.

Benm

Ben my bud, you are not alone on this dyslexia thing, I have it and always will, but in my case in school I was one of in a group of peers that no one really messed with, getting kicked out of school and so on I finally got my sh$# together and by doing so I took 9 courses of night school to graduate high school on time but I still got it in my head that I did it on my own.

But after being overexposed to chemicals as a painter changed my life that I even panicked having a cop follow me but now I tend to like fighting for my rights even though I know the cop is in the wrong from not fully knowing the laws as we get a lot of the new-bees trying to prove themselves

Heck I even shaved off all my hair and got a lot of looks but by looking right back at then they would turn there heads, but I do tend to like doing extreme things just to prove I can do it.

Cowboy up

Panic Queen,

I feel just like you, if I could get past being overly sensitive and taking things the wrong way or to heart I would feel so much better.

Over sensitivity is being over affected by an external influence that can hardly affect normal people, for example not being able to tolerate Constructive criticism that other people normally tolerate. In order to know if you are an over sensitive person see if your answer to most of these questions are yes?

Do you get hurt by some words or comments that are told to you about your personality?
are you unable to tolerate criticism?
Do you hate loud noise or loud music?
Do you feel other people's pain and suffering more than anyone else?
Do you stop for more than three minutes when you see an accident on the street in order to watch?
Do you find it very hard to tolerate high or low temperatures?
Do you find it very hard to gain muscles by working out?
Do you have lots of mood swings as a result of small events?
Over sensitive people are more likely to have bad moods, to get depressed and to be moody because their mood changes whenever any small event happen. An emotionally sensitive person is like a fragile person, or a person who is labeled "handle with care".

OK, I am an overly sensitive person. But I want to kick it to the curb............you all with me?

There are many ways that can help you deal with your over sensitivity but most of them root to one source, changing your way of thinking and your perception of situations. After all if you are over sensitive you wont feel bad when being hurt unless you have perceived the situation that happened as a bad one, if you managed to change your way of thinking you will be able to reap the benefits of emotional sensitivity and avoid its drawbacks.

OK, this is where you go to work, share with us how you are going to work on your sensitivity issues.

Happy Holidays.

Kitt

Ben,

I empathize with you and the problems you have had with dyslexia.........

I am going to post a link to a site that is very informational re dyslexia for people who do not understand this disorder or who may feel they have this disability.

http://www.ldonline.org/article/16282?gclid=CMSkiaW9z5cCFQEoGgodBjXbDg

Just click on link and you will find a wealth of information.

Big Christmas Hugs to you dear Ben.

Kitt

Nikki, wacko movies like that put me on edge too. . . along with certain music and other's pain or "vibes." I can totally relate and the crazy thing is the only solution is avoidance which we are supposed to keep limited in our lives as Anxiety/Panic Survivors:) I think it's just fine to avoid the bad stuff though :) lol

I'm not really all that sensitive, at least not to people I don't know. Then again I am. It's weird. But one thing is for sure, I used to be the "strong" type and since getting sick a couple years ago I've been extremely self-conscious about getting sick. If a friend calls and I have a really bad headache, for example, I won't tell them that. I'll make up a white lie and give them some other non-anxiety, non-health related reason that I can't meet them for lunch or whatever. Used to not care at all about what people thought but I sure do now. I guess it's a "showing weakness" issue.