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how do i began to heal of anxiety
medications - 28.6% - 2 votes
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Posted 12/17/2008 2:26 PM (GMT 0)
hi i can't get a grip on this anxiety thing.i've tried meds and relaxation but at the end of the day i'm scared.all the time,i don't know why i can't deal with my kids,i can't hold my new born for fear that i may drop her during a panic attack.my head always hurts,it,s ruining my life my husband don't understand and i think he's going to leave,can anybody giveme any tips on how not to feel this way all day all night please help..i can't even cry no more!!
Posted 12/17/2008 3:13 PM (GMT 0)
Have you seen a therapist yet? That and some medication really helped me the most. The therapist helped me to see things a little differently and the meds helped too. Sending big hugs your way.
Posted 12/17/2008 3:13 PM (GMT 0)

petrified

Welcome to HealingWell and the A & P forum.

I would like to suggest you see your physician and find out perhaps that you are going through some post partum "blues". It may be a number of things but as I am not a professional I won't make any guesses.

You do have my caring and support and know we are all one big family here..................you can count on us to be here for you.

Again Welcome

Kitt

Posted 12/17/2008 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
hi i.m petrified and thank god you guys answered i'm not alone in this.i've seen therapist's and my doctor.they don't feel i need medicine.but my anxiety gets so bad that my face gets numb.does any body knows if alcohol would ease my anxiety
Posted 12/17/2008 3:32 PM (GMT 0)
I wouldn't drink just to ease anixiety. When I'm in a state of high anxiety I feel more anxious if a get a little tipsy because I feel like I'm "losing control" Try some sleepytime tea or warm milk with honey. The first couple of months after I had my kids my hormones were all over the place. I felt sad, happy, anxious all at the same time. Are you nursing? Prolactin is produced if you are and it should make you feel calmer. Also when you're feeling panicky, take deep breathes in through your nose, count to 4 and exhale slowly through your nose or mouth. That will keep you from hyperventilating. You won't drop your baby. Your body doesn't get weaker when you're having a panic attack. It's actually preparing for flight or fight mode and your legs and arms might feel weird because there's more blood rushing into them to make you stronger and faster! REach out to friends and family that will understand. Talking through my feelings of anxiety through always makes me feel better. Hang in there. You will get through this. We're here for you.
Posted 12/17/2008 4:23 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, petrified.

I think paniccu has some great ideas.

Definitely find a friend or a therapist that you can talk with, who helps you feel understood. You don't see your husband as understanding, but it's so important to have someone who is close to you (or who you see regularly who focusses only on you, the way therapists do) to express yourself to. Sometimes just trying to make sense of your experiences enough to explain them to someone else can help you to sort them out for yourself. Then you're better able to recognize the things that do or don't work for coping with your anxiety.

percycat
Posted 12/17/2008 7:19 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Petrified :)

Welcome to the A&P Forum. You have a lot of great advice on here already and I feel if your doc is not listening to you right now with a newborn, please find a new doc for the sake of yourself and your family.

The best of luck to you!
Posted 12/17/2008 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
I agree that you're probably suffering from post partum depression. But remember I'm not a doctor. I would see a different doctor or therapist if your needs are not being met. Make sure you don't fill your head with scary thoughts. When you start thinking your husband is going to leave, tell yourself that you are exaggerating due to hormones and anxiety and that everything is going to be fine. Many women are able to get through post partum depression without meds. But of course many have needed them, too. Go easy on yourself. You just had a baby. It's overwhelming. Keep yourself busy but not nervously busy (if that makes sense). Lastly, many people turn to meds as soon as their anxiety flares up. This is not always a good thing. People need to learn how to deal with the anxiety without meds eventually. Hang in there! Everything is going to be okay!!!
Posted 12/17/2008 9:08 PM (GMT 0)
you guys are great!let me just say i'm taking all of your advice in right now.you don't have to take time out and you're doing it anyway thanx!my anxiety level is so high all day every day.i just paid 400 dollars for a program i saw on tv.it hasn't arrived yet but i hope it comes soon.i just feel like this will last forever.i pray,i talk,i try to relax myself but i get the feeling that i'm dieing.i don't even know what triggered it.how can i figure that out.i'm just so scared right now.i can't even leave home anymore.
Posted 12/17/2008 9:36 PM (GMT 0)

Petrified,

Is that the Lucinda Bassett program?   Just curious as we have several members here that have her program and have had good luck with it.

Baby blues
Signs and symptoms of the baby blues — which last only a few days or weeks — may include:

  • Mood swings
  • Anxiety
  • Sadness
  • Irritability
  • Crying
  • Decreased concentration
  • Trouble sleeping

I agree, try to see an OB/GYN phycisian.  We want you feeling better by Christmas.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

Posted 12/17/2008 10:30 PM (GMT 0)
It's always good to find the source of your anxiety and tackle it (calmly). But if trying to figure out why you're having panic attacks is making you more nervous, than don't try to figure it out. It very well may be your hormones and so you just need to "float" with it. You'll be back to normal before you know it.

Posted 12/18/2008 8:17 AM (GMT 0)
yes it is lucinda bassett and i hope i have luck with it also.somethings gotta give.thanx for posting the baby blues sign i have every one of those symptoms.feels good not to be alone in here thank you all
Posted 12/18/2008 4:06 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, petrified.

It's hard when you feel alone and at the end of your rope. Things do feel like they'll never get better, but trust that they actually will. I suffered from pretty bad depression for years and felt that life would not ever change, and that anyone who told me to wait until it improved just didn't understand. However, I did make it out of my deep dark hole - medication is what turned the corner for me - and now I look back and see that what I thought was impossible - getting better - really did happen. If it can happen for me, it can certainly happen for you.

You're taking some steps to try to help yourself. When you're feeling negative about your life or feeling helpless, try to cling to that thought - that you're doing the best you can to fight back right now. That's worth something.

percycat
Posted 12/18/2008 10:27 PM (GMT 0)
thank u guys and believe me i'm listening.my husband today told me he don't believe i'm having panic attacks how can i get over it with so much negativity.he said i'm not who i use to be and he's right it's taking over my life.i do believe i'll overcome this but when?i have chest and shoulder pains but when i go to the hospital they say it's nothing.and they can be so insensitive.but the pains cause my panic.how do i get rid of those.i take asprin in case it is a heart attack.i'm 28 my life shouldn't be this complicated confused
Posted 12/19/2008 6:34 PM (GMT 0)
Did your DH ever go to the therapist with you? My DH went with me to my first appt and it helped him to understand what PA is truly about. I don't think he got it at first either. It's kind of ironic now, he gets panic attacks more than I do lately.
Posted 12/20/2008 4:07 AM (GMT 0)
thanx nikki for understanding but i'm going to leave you're right no tolerance and maybe that's the problem thank you
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