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Posted 2/27/2009 7:45 AM (GMT 0)
I am starting here.
I don't know where else, in this forum, to start.

I am 43 years old and have such anxiety over an issue that only my husband knows about.
I have never gotten my period. There, I said it.
I have never really developed breasts either.

My husband loves me for what I am!
We have a great sex life!

However, I know that I need to see a gynecologist, but, I am afraid.
How do I talk about this? Why am I like this?

My sisters have had their periods since they were 16-18 years old. They were not able to have children, though.

Would love some input..now that I have put this out there!
This causes me great anxiety!
Posted 2/27/2009 10:04 AM (GMT 0)
Hi there, Welcome!! Please dont feel anxious! I commend you on your courage.  I have never heard of a woman never getting there period before but I have no doubt it is possible.  I dont think you should be ashamed of it as it is nothing you have any control over. This must have been extreamly hard on you...you poor thing!! You must have waited year by year, only for it never to come.  I do strongly recomend that you speak to your doc about this, just to rule out anything serious. I am sorry I can not say anything to ease your mind except to make and appointment and tell your doc, I'm sure they have heard stranger things.  Best of luck and Stay strong. gillx
Posted 2/27/2009 2:39 PM (GMT 0)

Addy,

Welcome to HealingWell and the A & P  forum.  I understand your fear and your anxiety as it sounds well founded.

Amenorrhea — the absence of menstruation — can happen during puberty or later in life. Primary amenorrhea describes a condition in which you haven't had any menstrual periods by age 16.

Please do make that appointment with  a GYN Pysician, perhaps a female physician would be someone you would feel more comfortable with.

Remember to stay in the moment but for your own anxiety and reassurance do seek medical counsel to find out what is causing the problem. It is better to know then to worry.  You can make it to the physicians, just keep telling yourself  "I can do this" .

Gentle Hugs to you  and again a warm welcome.

Kitt

Posted 2/27/2009 7:26 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with Gilly and Kitt....you need to speak with your GYN doctor. That will help ease some of your thoughts.

Also, please don't be offended by this but they are your words, "My husband loves me for what I am!"

I just wanted to say....that your husband loves you for WHO you are not what. You are a person that has thoughts and feelings. I only bring this up because I too used to call myself a what until I got yelled at enough about it...lol. I only used all caps on the who so that it is stressed....I'm not yelling by any means. I really hope that you find this forum helpful and that you meet new friends here because I know since I joined...it has helped me out tremendously!!!! Welcome!
Posted 2/27/2009 9:44 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Addy, it is nice to meet you and welcome to our forum :)
Posted 2/28/2009 9:54 PM (GMT 0)
....Welcome Addy
Kitt has given you the rundown on what it could be and I know that I would want to see a gyno asap to find out what they can do in this case........

You have all the right to worry or have fear but I know ( in my opinion) that once you get to a doc and talk about this ........TX options and all you will be in a hades of a lot better place
Please stay with us and keep us posted

Again Welcome and nice to meet you ........LYN
Posted 3/1/2009 3:58 AM (GMT 0)
I wanted to welcome you as well and recommend that you follow the suggestions of the others. Don't be ashamed! This is out of your control and I'm sure there's a perfectly normal reason for not having periods. Let us know wut the doc says!
Posted 3/6/2009 11:27 AM (GMT 0)
Hi there...I am just checking in again as I have been thinking about you and your little problem. I was wondering if you have spoken to the doc or if you are feeling a little better. I do hope you are ok. gillx
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