My mother blames me for changing my brothers thinking.

 Hello, My mom is blaming me for my brothers mind changing. First let me say: I moved north to help my brother take care of our mom. Im almost 50, brother T is 43 and mom is 74. I have been here 2 1/2 yrs nows and have a great job; which is stressful in its self. I had no life in the South, so I came North.  My brother T 43 has been there for my brother F since brother T was 18. Meaning sharing an apt, food,money ect...So, for 25 yrs br-T has always helped him and after 25 yrs he's DONE!!!       My mom is for the under dogs and br-F is one badly. He litterly does not have a pot to pee in and he is 47yrs old. One day br-F came over to visit mom; I was quiet and just stood there. My mom started talking bad about br-T and I defended him and words were going back n forth. Br- F got in my face a female (me) and backed hand me in the face. I said thats it, you better leave Im calling the police. F tried to get my phone and I called. I filed a report for assult on him. Mom saw everything and when the police got here she defended him and said he didnt do anything to her (me) he didnt hit her......       Im here 2 1/2 yrs and my mom thinks Im the one to blame for changing his mind not to help him any more. I had nothing to do with it. I rent a room from my br-T cause he could use the money and it's to costly to rent a place. The town I live in is all about money and more then 50%  of ppl are on social services, state help. My mom has voiced her opinion,thoughts about it and verbally attacked me cause T wont help F anymore. A good friend is helping and tried to get T and mom back together (they have been at war for other issues) all stems together to this point. So, mom and T embraced kissed, and cried and mom said her first words were its all her fault!! T pushed mom and said NO ITS NOT !!! She (me) C has nothing to do with it.      

 

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Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 12/25/2011 7:17:40 AM (GMT-7)

Hello Kitt, Thank you for ur kindness. I will be looking for a place to move to and hope I find one. I have a week off from work and will be looking for a place. I was talking to my brother in Albany and he is willing to come get her for a week. To see just how it feels to bascially be on here own. My mom is a drama queen. Before all this happened she said she could not dial a number. Didnt know how to use a phone, but now she has been calling ppl all over. Theres alot more to this story then I can type. Thanks for reading and responding.