You are not alone. All mothers or most anyway fear their children leaving and spreading their wings. We have one
child , a daughter , so when she went off to college 7 hrs away I was filled with dread and ominous feelings of doom.
I worry all the time anyway so this just exacerbated my worrying. I did manage to get through it though.
She is married now 15 yrs. and we retired to be near them. We are a block away. I can actually see their house from ours. She works a few blocks away from her house. She will be 40 in Oct. I still worry about her. This will lessen but
for me it has never gone away where I do not think of her 20 times a day. She is a wonderful daugther and knows my
anxiety so she calls me daily and lets me know when she is home from work. I feel horrible that she has to be burdened by my obsessions. But she says she loves me and she wants me to not worry. They recently went to Europe for a month and I thought I was going to go off the deep end. They emailed me everyday, sometimes 3 times a day. It made it a relief for me but I have alot of guilt that she has to do this so I feel better. I am grateful that her husband does not mind and will actually email me himself as well. It seems unfair that a almost 40 yrs old women has to deal with a obsessive
worrying mother but she reassures me that it does not affect their lives. I think she just tells me that so I don't have something else to worry about. I am thankful they love me enough to not want me to be in an anxiety state but the guilt is still there.
I feel for anyone who has these fears and are constantly concerned about the well being of their children. You have to
let them go and spread their wings. You raised them to be responsible adults and you have to give them the chance to show you they can do well on their own.
If you are lucky they will keep you posted so you do not worry about them