Hijinxs,
Hello and
welcome to HealingWell. Glad you've
found our online community. It’s a great place to connect with others traveling
the same road...you'll find much support, encouragement and advice from others
who understand.
You have my deepest sympathy at the death of your Father and I understand how much you miss him. I lost my Dad very suddenly 28 years ago and I was his only child and yes to this day when times are tough, I miss my Dad. I was just 39 when my Dad was dx with cancer and he was gone in one short week.
I have family events that I like to go to on my in-laws side and some that make me anxious so I choose wisely now. My hubby also feels the same way on which family events he prefers to stay for a short time. If one of us wants to stay for the whole event and the other wants to leave early, we drive seperate cars and give ourself permission to leave when we feel it is time for us.
One thing I have always done to avoid those heated political or religious discussions is to go play with the children be they young or in their teens.
If it is a nice day out I may offer to take some of the children for a walk. At the least I volunteer to be the runner if something extra is needed for the event such as milk, etc.
Like SC, I also go to my happy place, the same one I use if I go to the dentist, or the DRs. for a procedure......................
Try not do get stuck in "what if thinkin" prior to the event..........just tell youself you can do this and it will be OK. If you become upset while there, take a time out and step away from it all.
Blessings to you and I hope you stick with us.
Kindly,
Kitt