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Posted 5/14/2013 7:38 AM (GMT 0)
2 days ago was the culmination of 2.5 yrs of a steady deterioration of my relationship with my wife. We have official separated. I have a whirlwind of emotions going thru me now. relief, sadness, anger, guilt, resentment.... My anxiety is also ramping up big time. Trying my best to see the silver lining.

I really hope anxiety would be viewed with more understanding by those people who dont suffer from it. The damage done to our relationship is a sad proof that so much more must be done to mak people understand that, you just dont snap out of it because you want to.

Posted 5/14/2013 8:09 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Grover

I'm sorry to hear about your anxiety at this time in your life and what you are going through. Don't know in your personal case if its a good or bad thing, but as you said you are trying to find the silver lining here. It sounds like your wife was not able to support you as best you needed. She probably lost an otherwise amazing person and some other amazing person like yourself now has an opportunity to move in and swoop you up.

I read somewhere that anxiety suffers are normally highly-functioning, intelligent and emotionally connected people. Sounds like a great combination minus the occasional flare up of anxiety right? Try also to look past your anxiety and this situation to what other wonderful and redeemding things in your life you have now - there are probably many many things.

I absolutely agree with you it seems so difficult sometimes for people who do not suffer with anxiety to understand what we are going through. It is not a figment of our imaginations but a real palpable condition of the mind and it manifests itself so unpleasantly in many different ways.

But I can assure you that I understand you and so does everybody else on this forum. You are not alone in your challanges and pursuit of victory over anxiety and the complications it may bring. It is not something to snap out of but something, in my opinion, to work out of and eventually get tools to manage long-term.

I hope you are feeling better soon!
Posted 5/14/2013 2:28 PM (GMT 0)
G.P.

I can't really add anything more...Joshua has said it all very well.

I will just add my support, and encourage you to take good care of YOU at the moment. Separtations are very difficult, even if it is eventually going to be a positive change for us...it is still hard while it is all so new, and you are going through it.

Keep talking with us. We are here for you and we understand and care about you, friend.

S.C.
Posted 5/14/2013 4:17 PM (GMT 0)
Grover,

I agree, Joshua has covered most of it. And what he said is along the lines of what I was going to say. I hope that you have brighter, easier days ahead...and remember, we are all here for you to vent to and talk to. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

Sylknmyst
Posted 5/15/2013 1:37 AM (GMT 0)
thanks a lot friends for your words of encouragement and support.
Posted 5/15/2013 3:21 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with what has already been posted. Just wanted to add in extra encouragement and prayers for you!!
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