Blaming it on the Boyfriend

I want to know if anyone else does this...when I get into a low mood, I often concentrate all my bad feeling on my boyfriend and our relationship. When I'm feeling "normal" or happy, I feel our relationship is great, that he is a great boyfriend. When I'm unhappy, I think things like "he's probably cheating on me, he doesn't care about me" over and over, and I often even try to break up with him, then feel horrified about how I've acted and felt when I was upset. I feel a great deal of guilt about it, but every time it happens I feel so certain that this time I'm 100% right.

Does that happen to anyone else? I don't know what to do...just ignore my thoughts when I'm really anxious, and not bring up any issues until I feel good again? I'm afraid if I don't pick a fight or talk to him, the thoughts will just build and build. But every time I bring up the same neurotic (and unfair) thoughts again, I feel like I weaken my relationship.

I guess it's the hormones. For me, when I'm in the bad mood I also go into the blaming mood. Despite fulling understanding that blaming doesn't help, I still get mad with the people around me. Then when it's all over I start to question myself for my behavior.

You don't have to ignore your thoughts. Just refocus your energy to something else. For me, I release my pent up energy by singing, playing musical instruments (although I'm a noob at it) etc. Just do things that you like to do.

Hope that helps. Good luck. :)

Also get him when you are clear.minded to have "the anxiety talk". It freaks out my wife.and even me some.of the crap I say when I'm anxious so best to get this talk going.when you are totally OK. The "weak" stuff, well that's just your.anxiety talking but I.suspect if the.BF is longterm he would want to be clued.in to what's going on and what anxiety is all about...