Good Morning BeRock,
From the moment we are old enough to curl our hands and snatch
toys from our fellow crib dwellers, we are told not to be selfish. “No one
likes a selfish person,” “Put others first,” “Don’t be so greedy”—and so goes
the stream of reprimands. It’s no wonder that many of us are concerned with
being perceived as selfish, that we now feel terrible for ever having the nerve
of putting ourselves first. We may win friends with our selflessness, but what
damage is this causing to our own spirits?
Being called selfish when I was younger cut me deep. So
subconsciously, it turns out; I would strive to be selfless.
When we constantly give to people, without receiving
anything in return, our bodies get the message that they are second rate and
not good enough. This is why it is so important to honor ourselves first. I
suspect this is where you need to get to and with help, you will reach that
place.
Being selfish is not always a bad thing. Sure, other
problems will arise if we say no to everyone all of the time, but this is where
selectivity comes in. If you listen carefully, your body will tell you if you
are dishonoring yourself by saying yes to someone or something when you really
don’t want to. Your “gut feeling” or intuition will poke you in the tummy and
let you know. You know what feeling I’m talking about. Sometimes it genuinely
feels good to say yes, but the trick is to make sure that you never give more
to other people than you give to yourself.
Our health and happiness should always come first. Because
when our cups are overflowing we have more good stuff to offer others. By
giving to ourselves first, we are honoring the fact that we are here in the
Universe to serve a purpose that will ultimately create a ripple effect and
serve those around us.
I do feel that is what Larry is saying to you; it is OK to put yourself first, to kick guilt
to the curb and to honor yourself by making sure you are healthy, happy and
feeling peaceful.
Saying no to others and yes to ourselves is one of the most
important steps to healing because it gives our bodies a direct message that
they do matter, that they are good enough—and that they are loved.
You are a very important person; never forget that. The world is a better place because you live
and serve within it.
The only thing you need to do right now is take care of you
and by coming here and talking with us you are taking a big step toward
healing.
Blessings,
Kitt