Facing Challenges but Determined to Win...

Hi,

I wish everyone the best and to have whatever your striving for...

The Good - I am beginning to get my fitness and strength levels back in the right direction.
This is something I let go last fall, and did not start again in earnest till July. I realize this is
a strong part of who I am , and very much part of my mental as well as physical health.
Heck, if financially was in as good as shape as I look and feel, my anxiety and stress levels
would be much lower. There are very few things I can control in my life, and although I no
longer have the strength I did when I was 25( we all lose some), I resolve to try and maintain
and increase this. With feeling down about things, I also was bored with my exercising after
30 plus years, the time off has given me renewed enthusiasm. Also, as a part time option, I
am thinking of being a Personal Trainer again, something I did briefly years ago. Does not pay
that much, working in a club, and would have to get certified again.

But this is something I know - and could easily relate my knowledge to others and really help them.
And maybe I can parlay this into going into peoples homes. Realistically, this is a very competitive
field, with people who have college degrees specific to exercise science. So much to know and
learn, so many areas of specification - training for sports and for people with special challenges.
This is not something that is going to give me the money, lifestyle I once had. Unless I somehow
managed to build it up, which would take much time , expense to learn that I don't have.

A side thing for now. I bought the course 3 years , almost 4 years ago, and like other things put it
off, studied and passed all practice tests but never actually took exam, I have done this with other
things. I am no spring chicken, as they say, and if I want to do, I should take 2 weeks and go over
again and do.

So it is not much money, but it is something where people are coming to me!
I am tired of chasing, as I do in sales, even though I try and be as dignified as possible.

The Not So Good

From experience, selling to me is a groove I get in, and I need to be consistent to do it well.
It takes a strong initiative, a tremendous deal of patience ,and mental strength to put up with
people's indifference, negative attitude towards you as a salesman, that is inherent because
they see it as not needing what your selling.

So, I being I try and be as professional as possible, respect their time, see if they have a genuine
need and bring value to the sales call. I keep it real, am myself (no b.s sales act), concise and
helpful.

Lets just say in what I am doing with a family member , doing sales for him , is chasing my own
tail, getting no results. In reviewing the job I have done, there are somethings I could have done
better, but really considering my efforts , there has been little reward. At least he is a great guy,
the guy I work for, who is a friend of my dad.

But the lack of results gives me no momentum and is bad for my self esteem.

It also really pisses me off!!!!! More thought, annoyance in recent time , than in past many years in previous
position in which I did well and was awarded regularly monetarily.

I have noticed I need to do this job with regularity, but by its nature it is going nowhere ,so I find it
difficult to do.

In summary, my intermittent efforts have me out of sync. Need to move to a more positive,stable situation.

Hi Scaredy Cat,

Thank you for your support.

I agree with you assessment. I wrote my post after a workout, when

I have a almost natural high feeling, so I know it is good for me.

But realistically, where I live the cost of living is very expensive, and I

need a better paying situation. Another factor is the fact that personal

trainers do not have guaranteed hours and have to get and maintain their

own clients, so this is not a stable situation. Not enough to depend on paying the bills.

I have to get back into the workforce. Beside my weight training I have

never really commited myself to a career. I an very much a late bloomer. In my case life is too serious to be taken seriously. The one true comment I got from therapy was the therapist's comment that

why do I have to  analyze the reasons for every one my action/ or lack there of. .I have a general sense of why I  do what I do. Do I really  have to write everything here. No. Over analysis leads to paralysis.

Was with my son showing him his classes today, saw some teachers.

I wish I had a more stable career where I did not have to be "on" and

worry about getting new customers. I don't care if I'm sitting in bed,

It is a big pain in the butt, I should be at least a manager at this point,

but see the last paragraph, and you know why I never got to the next

level.

In my heart, my gut tells me I am more cut out for something in social

services, as my sensitive nature helps me relate to people and their

issues. S.C, I wander if from reading my posts over time you see this too. Oh well, had a few years to work on a career change while collecting, if I do it now will have to do while working during day.

So, I have a interview for real job on Wednesday, we will see.

Scaredy Cat, I emailed you again last week. seeking your wisdom. when you have the time, I would like to hear back. All the best to you and your

family

 

Post Edited (ghosst8) : 9/6/2013 9:25:09 PM (GMT-6)