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Posted 10/10/2013 5:09 PM (GMT 0)
As some of you already know..I had been feeling depresses for the last two weeks, I went to see my dr and she said that once 13 weeks of my pregnancy have passed, I can go back on medication, the thing is I didn't want to...but this is really bad... I had a few days good and this morning ... I feel so desperate because I don't seem to have any energy and I feel like crying and crying and I can't because I am at work...I don't know what to do... I want to be happy .. I think at one point I was and now ...I can't seem to find an answer..I feel so worthless... and I know I have to get up because of my baby...but how do I do it..my situation is worsening (relationship) and that is hurting me the most...
Posted 10/10/2013 5:31 PM (GMT 0)
cln,

Your Dr. is correct in having you give up your meds for now however, if she feels you may restart the meds once you are at the 13 week mark, I would encourage you to consider her advice.  You can also get a second opinion re taking your med while pregnant.

 

Deep breathing always helps me the most when I'm feeling anxious. It's also good to get outside and get some exercise, even if it's just a walk around the block. You might try drinking herbal teas - a good choice would be chamomile.  If you drink or eat anything with cafeine cut that out of your diet. It only makes you more anxious. Read and watch relaxing things. Try to stay away from the news.

At my lowest point when I had depression and was in tears daily, my therapist encouraged me to get outside and walk.  When I told her I couldn't go out if I am crying she told me to put on sunglasses. cool

I am here to support you so please know that you are not alone.

Posted 10/10/2013 5:34 PM (GMT 0)
CLN there are a lot of Mother's here and they will be droping in on your post, I went through this with my
oldest Daughter but they allowed Her to take xanax as needed and She was ok, Peace

Larry ***
Posted 10/10/2013 5:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Sweetie,

I am so sorry that you are feeling so low. Your body and mind are going through a lot at the moment...lots of changes both good and difficult.

Do you think you might want to reconsider and go ahead and start your medication for at least the time being?

If you have done all that you can with self-help and coping skills, you may find that this is a good choice for yourself.

You are full of worth and deserve to feel good.:)

I am hoping that you can discuss this with your doctor and together make the best choice for you.

I am sending ecouragement and hugs your way. Please give us an updated soon and keep posting. We care about you!!

S.C.
Posted 10/10/2013 5:42 PM (GMT 0)
Yes...I guess...its so hard, I never thought that my pregnancy was going to be like this
Posted 10/11/2013 4:19 AM (GMT 0)
CLN, It will get better, give yourself a chance, the first three months my Daughter was working at Federal
Express and had a tough time, but after that things settled down, Your going to be a great Mommie,
Instead of fear let yourself dream of things you are going to do with your Child. You and Baby are going to
be fine, my Prayers are with you both! Peace

Larry ***
Posted 10/11/2013 11:12 AM (GMT 0)
Yes I am trying and telling myself that...i juat want to be able to concetrate and be in peace,.My thoughts wont let me
Posted 10/11/2013 5:33 PM (GMT 0)
Pregnacy and post partum are often romanticized as this magical, etheral time full of hope and wonder...when the reality is that is can be very difficult and challenging at times!

Know that you are not alone, and that many women have rough times during this time of their lives.

If you don't mind...I am going to look up some book recommendation for you.

S.C.

p.s. did you talk to your doctor and decide how you are going to proceed w/ or w/out your meds?
Posted 10/11/2013 7:46 PM (GMT 0)
No I dont mind at all...thank u so much
Posted 10/11/2013 8:45 PM (GMT 0)
Books

http://www.amazon.com/The-Pregnancy-Postpartum-Anxiety-Workbook/dp/1572245891

http://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Disorders-Pregnancy-Postpartum-Psychiatry/dp/1585622257

Articles

http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-life/emotions/depressed/

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/04/19/4-facts-about-anxiety-during-pregnancy-how-to-find-help/

Here are two books and two articles to get you started.  See is these look like they could help.  Be sure and look up the related books and articles that they suggest for more info.

Hugs,

S.C.

Posted 10/11/2013 10:52 PM (GMT 0)
Checking in to see if today is a better day.  I was 18 when my first son was born and I knew nothing.................but I learned that I was capable and I have always felt that I grew up with my first born child.

Start to purchase little things for the baby as it will make you feel like you are busy getting ready and slowly fill a drawer for your baby.

Hugs,

Kitt

 

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